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November wedding

21 replies

Loulablake · 12/07/2020 21:53

Wwyd more I guess. We’re due to get married in November. It’s a church wedding we have 86 people invited however we can’t shrink it as my partner has a big family and they’re close with all aunts uncles etc, I really don’t want a church wedding with no singing etc but makeup artists still can’t work. We have to wait till September for the venue to give any more information. But what do you think? Are any of you makeup artists?

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Loulablake · 12/07/2020 21:56

I know in the grand scheme of things this is not a major issue. We’d experienced a lot of suffering(whole other thread) but it was the rainbow after a storm sort of thing. I’m ok with moving the date. I guess I just wondered if you thought it would go ahead.

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CushionsandCandles · 12/07/2020 22:00

I'm not sure what you are asking.
Are you suggesting delaying a wedding as there won't be a make up artist???

If you are then in the gentlest way I'd take stock of your priorities.

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Loulablake · 12/07/2020 22:02

No If you thought it would go ahead, sorry. I referenced mua because they’re still not aloud to work

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ConnellWaldronsChain · 12/07/2020 22:03

If you're not willing to consider a reduction in guest numbers then postponing til 2021 is probably your best option

Can't you just do your own make up?

CrazylazyJane · 12/07/2020 22:04

I think I would be inclined to cancel. The lack of make up artist is one thing but if you have a large family and the 30 people max' restrictions are still in place, it won't be the wedding you thought it would be and hopefully you'll only be doing it the once.

CrazylazyJane · 12/07/2020 22:04

I think I would be inclined to cancel. The lack of make up artist is one thing but if you have a large family and the 30 people max' restrictions are still in place, it won't be the wedding you thought it would be and hopefully you'll only be doing it the once.

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Loulablake · 12/07/2020 22:09

Sorry for confusion, I was referring to the fact they still can’t go ahead as they’re not aloud to work. I’m not worried about doing my own makeup. I can’t do anything till September with the venue. I just wondered if you thought it would be possible to still go ahead. My partner does I’m unsure.

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Loulablake · 12/07/2020 22:12

No it wouldn’t be, I guess I still wanted hope. Like I said I don’t mind moving the date it’s for the best. I don’t want him to pick through his family it’s not worth it. Thanks though

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Lelly0503 · 12/07/2020 22:16

I was you a few months ago back in May, my wedding was September this year and I felt that we wouldn’t get the wedding we wanted with all the restrictions etc so we made the decision to postpone. The build up had gone for me and I didn’t want to spend weeks thinking is it going ahead or not. It’s hard to say with what it will be like in November I think you’ll be allowed more guests than 30, but I think your evening maybe restricted.

Hydrate · 12/07/2020 22:16

I'd cancel any events, and would not attend any either. Or have a small ceremony, with celebration at a later date, once safe to do so. Make-up, you probably need to do your own.

Dominicgoings · 12/07/2020 22:22

We have a family wedding in November with over 200 guests. I’m resigned to the fact that it won’t be going ahead in it’s currently planned form, but the bride and groom aren’t and appear to be adopting a ‘la la laaaaa’ fingers in ears approach. I anticipate a huge disappointment for them but am also frustrated that they are pretty much in denial.

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Loulablake · 12/07/2020 22:27

I think I was hoping that if makeup artists could go back to work, Then we’d be ok to get married. Obviously I’d be gutted but I’d rather get to celebrate properly with everyone. Wow 200 that’s a big wedding I hope you all have A lovely time whenever it is.

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dobbyssoc · 12/07/2020 22:29

I'm due to be married in January. We don't know what to do either... we've got slightly longer but we haven't got anything sorted in terms of suits, mua, flowers, cake etc
We don't want people being scared to come and not enjoying our day as we are worried.

IndiaMay · 12/07/2020 22:30

I'm hoping they can go ahead. We moved our may wedding to October way back in March. It was 7 months away so we thought that would be okay. I have good days and bad days. To be frank I will be fuming if we have to postpone again. I'm off on holiday in 2 weeks, can go to the pub and yet cant have a wedding?! Wtf

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Loulablake · 12/07/2020 22:37

Fingers crossed for you, we sent the invitations out but more of a “in case it does go ahead” we can’t move our date till September the venue has already said, so next years dates will be very limited for us. oh I hope yours doesn’t get moved again I’d be gutted too. Hope you have a relaxing holiday.

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IndiaMay · 12/07/2020 23:03

Thanks, ours is late October so we cant move ours until mid September either. I'm fed up, the whole thing has been ruined and there is no joy in it anymore. Only plus is I hope this means we'll last forever as I cant ever go through this rigmarole of trying to get married again. I'm scarred for life! Haha

IamMaz · 13/07/2020 08:08

TBH, if I had received an invitation to a wedding during these times, I don't think I would want to attend.
Maybe your acceptances will be less because of shielding or anxiety about Covid?

BathshebaAndGabriel · 13/07/2020 08:35

“Allowed”
Aloud MUA. Shudder.
Homophones are fun.

November weddings are so lovely.

I agree with above, if you don’t want reduced numbers and no singing probably best to postpone until 2021.

Best of luck.

plunkplunkfizz · 13/07/2020 08:36

I’ve been invited to a wedding in early November. A large number of our friends are invited too. Although everyone has RSVP’d yes, very few are booking accommodation as almost no one thinks it will actually go ahead as planned. If numbers have to be reduced then friends will be cut first and we will have wasted hundreds on accommodation.

Mytinyman · 13/07/2020 11:02

I was supposed to get married at the end of October but we decided to postpone until May because we didn't want to compromise on the guest list. My partner has a huge family and they would be upset of all of them couldnt go. But i hope that you get your wedding in November Smile

user1493413286 · 13/07/2020 11:04

I think it’s impossible to know; if we have a second wave as they think we will then I doubt things will be able to go ahead as you currently have it planned.

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