Dd and time with her Dad

[Mingo2010]

Recently split with dd dad, and wondering how often he should see her and what's fair ?
We've agreed that until she's settled in new home ( me and dd are leaving family home ) she won't be staying over night to start with, I was thinking of dd going to see her dad one eve during the week and then all day one day at the weekend, would this be fair ? Or is that not enough? Please can someone help and advise because I'm not too sure what's fair at the moment and just want the best for my little girl x

It doesn’t seem like a lot of time, how old is she?

You have to put yourselves in each others shoes, would you be happy if you only saw her during those times?

Then put yourself in her shoes and ask if thats enough time for her to spend with one of her parents.

No I defo wouldn't be happy, in fact I'd be so lost if I didn't see her enough, would 2 evenings be better?
He usually does his hobby 2-3 evenings during the week ( before corona ) and I'm not happy to let her go the whole weekend every weekend either x

Sorry she's almost 3 x

Why would she not stay over in her old house? That doesn’t make sense. How would you feel if he said that to you?

The rest depends on what the previous arrangement was? Did he look after her much or did you do the majority? Also how old is she?

With my ex, we shared care while together, he worked shifts and I Worked shifts. We then carried on sharing care when we split up. Current arrangement is he has the children 5 nights a fortnight. The children like this arrangement.

Only the two of you can really agree on things in her interest. 50/50 Is often pushed as the gold standard but very young children with a distinct primary carer don't adjust well to that sort of arrangement.

Every other weekend is pretty common with older children as it gives time around school etc and with clubs etc weekdays can be quite exhausting. I personally can't see how my children have a very good bond with their father with every other weekend. So id look for more, but unfortunately a lot of non resident parents don't seem to want more than that.