To ask what lockdown has done to your sex life?

[WildSkitty]

DP and I were very naive optimistic at the start of lockdown that we'd be having loads of sex and a pretty nice time together.

The reality is that I'm either working (NHS worker) or trying to homeschool the kids, deal with my DS's ASD meltdowns, planning the next sodding meal that needs cooking, or feeling completely "people'd out". I haven't had more than a couple of hours to myself in the last 4 months and I long for some time alone and to sleep in a bed all by myself.

Needless to say, sex is about the last thing I feel like at the moment. I just feel as though somebody always needs me for something, and I think I'm trying to create space by avoiding sex. I just want to be left alone!

Am I the only one?!

YABU - you are being ridiculous. Our sex life has improved since lockdown.
YANBU - I'm with you. Our sex life has dwindled since lockdown.

Very similar (apart from not an nhs or a key worker). I’ve been off and oh has been working throughout. Anyway..

At the beginning of lockdown I bought two large bottles of lube, some items from love honey thinking we’d have loads of sex. How wrong was I? 🤣

Our children also have additional needs, oh has worked the whole time and exhausted. I’m also knackered from trying to home school the kids and keep my shit together. Too tired by the time bedtime comes around.

YANBU!

Well before lockdown we were empty nesters with both boys away at uni, and really enjoying new found freedom. Sadly it's quite off putting with 2 strapping great teen men wandering around at all hours.

But that's ok, looking forward to September is good.

Hardly done it at all, maybe once or twice in the whole lockdown period. Too stressed, too much time with kids etc. Just not remotely in the mood! Been married 12 years. Thankfully it’s mutual.

Well ,it was,nt great before lockdown as we have a disabled child who.won't sleep alone ,however we did try and grab time when the kids were at school and dh,was off or on a late shift etc ,but zero chance of that in the last few months.

We actually did have a bit more sex during lockdown, despite both being totally knackered by working around a two year old - it was more quickies than long energetic sessions, but we both appreciated the intimacy. Then I got pregnant and the first trimester nausea, bloating and tiredness has very much seen off any lingering amorous feelings!

Definitely doing it less than usual.

I not getting enough time by myself to switch off from parenting/work/home learning.

I'm not getting enough time by myself to switch off from parenting/work/home learning

Absolutely this. I remembered a saying from I think it was Esther Perel who said something like desire comes from me, and not from you. So basically, you have to have the headspace to be your own individual self in order to create desire for another person. I suppose when you are basically tending to the needs of others with little time for yourself it's pretty difficult to be able to get in the mood for sex!