To think my best friend is selfish

[Meili99]

I have been best friends with a girl since primary, do lots of things together holidays with the kids etc.
DDs are 7 , my best friend split with her ex when their DD was around 1.
I'm still with DH of 10 years briefly separated 2 years ago but now together and happy . My best friend has had about 5 relationships since her split with her DDs dad and introduced her DD to the men now this new one she went on a couple of dates before lockdown. Just before lockdown ended she introduced her new bf to DD at the park and he's been staying at her house for a lot of nights. She text me today saying new bf of 7 weeks is moving in with her and DD. I'm finding it really hard to pretend to be pleased for her as i really feel it's just selfish on her DD. Her DD has had no time adjust.
2 weeks ago she invited me and DH to a family bbq where we could meet him which I declined as I thought it's too soon after 5 weeks to introduce us after she's had quite a few partners I've met and then they have later split not long after .
She later phoned me drunk and said I'm jealous of her new relationship and that she loves him.

Am I being a judgy cow? I feel like I'm struggling to be best friends with someone who moves a boyfriend in she hardly knows in with her poor DD.

She text me today saying just to let you knowc

Sorry for the cut off at the bottom laggy phone.

Bloody hell no I completely understand OP, and this from someone who has started another relationship after the end of my marriage. It took a year for DP to meet DC and 2 for him to move in.

She is incredibly selfish I'm sorry .

I wouldn't care about adults meeting a new boyfriend after a few weeks (I introduced now DH to my best friend the day after we officially started going out together) but I would definitely judge the rush of moving him in with a DD and the several men over the 6 years.

I really don't have advice but whatever you say is likely to be wrong. Leave it for now.

You are a bit yeah. I agree with you about moving the boyfriend in, but saying it was too soon for even you to be meeting him was a bit ridiculous.

It doesn’t sound to me that you are showing signs of jealousy. But it does sound like you are being a bit judgmental.
She’s your friend. Can you not be happy for her and support her? Even if she’s had BFs in past and you don’t agree with her eagerly looking to turn these into relationships you should be there for support if you consider her your friend

No your not. I agree with you. Far too fast. My niece has been trying to introduce me to her new boyfriend for a year. I can't be arsed after meeting her last three in the last 5 years 😂 it's weird having to befriend random men for a few months. Sometimes it's the way it goes for single mums as they try to find someone that's right. When there are children involved it isn't fair though.