To not know how to handle this

[PotteryLottery]

I spot check Y6 DD's phone messages for unkindness from friends. I think I told her we would do this but I don't think she remembers.

A message seems to show DD asking when a friend will pay her back 1000 Robux (£10) .

I told DD that the money we put on the Roblux game is for her use only and she told me it was not possible to transfer money to friends, but I think you can buy an item from a friend and so give them money that way.

I can't see from Robux if this is what happened. And if I tell DD I know from her WhatsApp, I'm worried she'll just delete messages in future and I won't know about bad stuff.

What to do?

Tell her you've spot checked as agreed, seen the message and want to know why she has misled you.

If happy with her explanation, make it very clear that if next spot check yields anything less than is there today (IE she deletes any conversations or groups) then her phone will be confiscated.

Cleared WhatsApp chats = phone gone.

You can buy items and gift them to friends/trade them I think. My dd has gifted quite a few things to her friends on Robux. She uses her allowance though, so as far as I’m concerned it’s her money to do with what she wants.

You can only trade or give items on roblox so the only thing I can think is that your daughter 'gave' her friend a pet or item on the promise that friend would give her 1000roblox in return, although not sure how they would even do that unless she gave her friend her log in details to lodge the roblox money into.

Just ask her what's going on, you have every right to check her phone - you pay for it! But I doubt the privacy angle will be raised by your daughter

Have some guidance on already prepared on how much is wise to lend friends, when it's better to make it clear things are a gift or are owed, it's all a really good opportunity to learn this stuff before the stakes get higher at secondary school.

Robux sorry

Thank you all. I spoke to DD and apparently it was coins earned in the game, not real money spent.

I told DD I was proud that she chased for the debt. She said the girl has repaid her before but not this time.

I explained that when lending something, only lend what you are prepared to lose.

DD didn't seem bothered that I had looked at her phone .