Splif in garden

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We recently purchased a house that's a bit of a project. Very overgrown garden, no boundary with next door. We cleared an area of the garden last week and found some cannibis (loose and a couple of rolled joints) in freezer bags, inside a brick. We assumed it belonged to previous owner and disposed.

This morning we found next doors youngish (13/14) son and a couple of friends in our garden looking inside the bricks. We asked them if they needed anything and they said they had lost something. We explained we had cleared the area and taken a load of rubbish to the dump. Neither of us acknowledged what it was.
I think we need to talk to his mum. We do hear rows so know they have a difficult relationship. Dh thinks none of our business and stay out.

Aibu to think we need to talk to his mum?

Tread very carefully. You will be making yourselves an enemy of the son and, depending on the attitude of the mum, potentially her as well.

You need to think about how you would approach it and how she is likely to react if she perceives you as 'judging her parenting'.

Stay well out of it and get a boundary up asap.

I wouldn't, just get a wall up ASAP if it was heroin and syringes fair enough but a couple of spliffs I couldn't get excited about.

I’d stay well out of it personally. If he’s coming home stoned she’ll figure it out before too long and you’ve no idea how it’ll be taken. Have had too many acrimonious neighbour scare stories to be on any terms with neighbours other than nodding and smiling!

I wouldn't say a word.

I'm another who'd ignore that. Different if it was an ounce or so and for sale. Different if it was stronger drugs. As it is, I'd do nothing. The parents will either know, or know soon enough.

I wouldn't say anything to his parents.

Absolutely stay out of it.
Nobody acknowledged what is was he was looking for.
You've just brought this house. Stay on the right side of the neighbours.
Dont make an enemy of teenage son and friends, i could turn your new and exciting house purchase into an utter nightmare.
Get your boundary sorted, teenagers will soon move on when they realise its no longer a safe place.

A few spliffs and weed that is now gone from your garden isnt exactly a bucket load of crack cociane, which then i think i would have more concerns.

Stay well out of it, and congratulations on your house purchase!

I’d be surprised if the parents don’t already know; it’s not exactly a subtle smell when kids have been smoking it. I’d leave it to be honest.

Gosh don't make another decision without discussing it with your dh first as you don't seem to have a grip on reality.
Arguing next door and you decide to tell them something that will cause more trouble, very bright, not.

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They know you know. Get a wall up and be “conscientious” at keeping your garden tidy. They will have been going in while the house is empty, they won’t be back and I think they will be wary of you.

Our neighbours kids smoke weed in the garden and it wouldn’t occur to me to speak to their parents about it. They are perfectly courteous and well behaved in other ways so I have no interest in spoiling their fun.

Are you serious? Assuming the kids then just politely accepted it when you said you had a clearance in the garden I wouldn’t even consider going around to your new neighbours with this tale

No, you don’t. Simple as that.

You could ask her next time if she knows anything about the previous owner, as you found some drugs in the garden 'that they left there' if you don't want to go headlong into it but tbh if I had a 13/14 year old that was doing drugs I'd want to know about it!!! Imagine finding out someone knew and didn't tell you.

And ditto the fence, too.

No, no need to interfere. You binned it, just build a wall and move on.

at that age there's probably county lines involvement (child grooming). Vulnerable kids are grabbed by scum drug dealers and first bribed, then threatened into carrying and dealing.

all those on here who buy cannabis are direct supports of this and have nothing to be proud of. The 'oh it isn't cocaine' attitude is incorrect. Still supports gang violence, knife crime and many other evils. MN only bothered when some posh white kid dies at a festival.

in your position I would stay out of it for your own safety, but if you start seeing signs of trouble next door (late night brief callers) then you'll probably have to call the police. I hope for your sake it doesn't ramp up.

'Some cannabis loose and a couple of rolled splints' sounds like personal use rather than county lines involvement

I cant even believe youd think to grass them up. Did you never smoke a splif in your teens OP?

Have people been watching a little too much Hollyoaks?

I wouldn't fuss over it. You chucked their weed out - they are not going to make the mistake of hiding it in your garden again

Are you sure of the age of the son? 13 is young isn’t it?

Feel like the odd one out here. 13 is very, very young to be smoking weed. Not sure what the solution is really but I would be concerned about where a 13 year old was getting marijuana from. I do work in law enforcement though (not a police officer) and would feel a professional need to do something. Though not sure what.

Sorry, not much help OP!