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My DH always decides to do 'noisy' jobs at inconsiderate times!

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EventRider1 · 10/07/2020 20:32

Does anyone else's DH do this?!
Mine drives me mad by deciding to do noisy jobs at inconsiderate times for our neighbours. Right now he is outside strimming and mowing the lawn and making a bloody racket that is disturbing our baby as I try to get her to sleep and no doubt the neighbours toddler who I imagine is in bed.
Other examples where cutting doors to fit using a massive table saw outside at 9pm at night, stripping wallpaper on the adjoining wall when we previously lived in a semi at 11pm at night. The list goes on and on!
It's like he doesn't bloody think and it drives me mad. If I dare mention that it is too late to do these jobs and he should have done them earlier, he gets his knickers in a right twist.
AIBU to expect him to be a little more considerate or is cutting the grass at 8.30 at night acceptable?

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Chickychoccyegg · 10/07/2020 20:37

all your examples are totally unacceptable, he's being very inconsiderate

rach2713 · 10/07/2020 20:38

My husband shouts and swears when he plays his game always gets loud when I'm settling baby same as my 3 other kids make such a noise order coming on my room asking for stuff drives me mad. And then they have a cheek when I've settled baby and I put kettle on they say be quiet baby's is sleeping Angry...

Ishihtzuknot · 10/07/2020 20:41

He’s being selfish, no one needs inconsiderate neighbours at a time like this. My ndn are constantly banging and making noises, it’s so stressful. Remind him about nuisance laws, a noise that bothers neighbours can lead to repercussions and bad relations. I’m sure a complaint from environmental health is the last thing you need.

EventRider1 · 10/07/2020 20:44

I think he thinks that because we live in the middle of nowhere and only have 3 neighbours and none of them are within about 50m. it is okay as if the noise suddenly stops at our fence line! The mind really boggles. Will be having another word with him when he comes in and I eventually get this baby to sleep. Sure it probably won't go down well though!

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burdog · 10/07/2020 20:52

My husband has a knack for it as well, I must admit. He puts the bins out at gone half past 10. I've had a word and its like water off a duck's back. He'll also do things like decide RIGHT NOW is the time to put clothes away, tidy the bedroom just after I've gone to bed and am trying to wind down before dozing off.

EventRider1 · 10/07/2020 20:55

@burdog yes mine does that as well. Have just gone outside and told him to pack it in as he has only done about 1/3 of the lawn so will be another 20-30 minutes if I let him carry on.
As I thought, he got shitty and asked when else was he supposed to do these jobs. I suggested in the two hours he was sat on his arse after he finished work!

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burdog · 10/07/2020 21:02

@eventrider1 Yup, mine had a tendancy to be like that. We were once going to visit friends on an afternoon. DH (then Dboyfriend) spent all morning fannying around and not doing very much at all, playing on his XBox and things like that. Just as we were about to go he announced he needed to take a uni library book back and it would take 10 minutes (it's a twenty minute drive into town not counting parking and dropping it off). I pointed out that it would then make us 10 minutes late, so he should do it another time. Oh no, it was on a short loan and it had been recalled by someone else so it needed to go back right now (but not earlier in the morning). Long story short we got caught in Saturday traffic... and were OVER AN HOUR late to meet our friends. I was not impressed, and told him as such. He's not done something that bad again.

TeddyGizmo · 10/07/2020 21:19

My husband is noisy all the time.
He can't even open curtains quietly.

Loud music in the garden, but he's indoors asleep on the sofa.

Falls asleep watching shit TV at top volume.

Goes outside to strim, mow, hammer something and leaves shit TV on at top volume.

I was on a work call today and he started washing up right next to me, banging the pots around, running the tap for an age, swearing at the cats etc.

DilemmaADay · 10/07/2020 21:46

A friends DH was like this...a group of us spent a few days away where sleeping quarters were very close and you could hear everything. Friends DH has a form for liking the sound of his own voice and was clattering about shouting at the top of his voice at 3am when everyone was trying to sleep. After this carried on for half an hour someone told him in very short sharp words to shut the fuck up.....that put a stop to that very quickly...

My point is maybe your DH needs one of his neighbours to tell him hes being disruptive before he believes it?

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