A friend has messaged me today and she is extremely annoyed with another mutual friend of ours.
Mutual friend had DD 2 years ago, at the time friend had purchased gifts when DD was born, a number of outfits etc. The friend that has messaged me is now expecting DD in 8 weeks time.
Mutual friend has posted a load of her DD’s old clothes online to sell, and has messaged other friend to say she’s selling baby clothes if she’s interested in any. Friend has noticed that 2 of the outfits she bought are posted as brand new with tags, meaning they were never used.
Firstly she is annoyed that the gifts she had bought have not been used, secondly she is also now annoyed that mutual friend is now trying to sell back her gift to her. (Her words not mine).
I’m on the fence a bit, I can see where she is coming from as it does seem like a bit of a waste of money to buy gifts that aren’t used but then it’s not really anything to do with you once you’ve handed the gift over what happens to it next. I don’t think mutual friend has meant anything by it but I can understand why other friend is annoyed about the mutual friend suggesting she might want to buy some of the unused clothes! She wants to confront mutual friend but I don’t really see what this will achieve. Just to point out both friends aren’t short of money and friend is also annoyed mutual friend is trying to make money out of the unused clothes when we do have other friends that could probably do with the clothes for free (I do get this part a bit more as I’d try to gift as much as I can if I know it will be of use to someone else, but again it’s not really anyone else’s business what our other friend chooses to do, I think she’s just thrown this in on top of the other reasons she is annoyed).
Is my friend being unreasonable for being annoyed by this or do you think she has the right to be annoyed. I wanted to seek some other opinions before I offer her any advice as I can see both sides.