Should I LTB

[PinkSparkleUnicorns]

My husband has gone off me. He doesn't hold my hand, kiss me, sleep in he same bed as me etc. Three DC all 6 and under. The attraction is just gone it seems. It breaks my heart every time I get a brush off and I miss intimacy.

We own our house.

If we separate I imagine we'd have to sell the house and the kids would miss him. I'd miss him helping with getting them all to bed and help with the housework. But every time he puts me down (he comments all the time he doesn't like my hair, my clothes, he thinks I'm overweight, he's not sexually attracted to me anymore etc) it breaks me.

Should we stay together for the kids a bit longer and hope we turn a corner? could he just be knackered as we both work as well as doing everything else in life? Or AIBU to start looking into divorce.

LEAVE

TBH sounds like he's had his head turned and when he finds someone to have a fling with he's laid all the groundwork to blame it on you...

His comments are downright nasty.

Yuck he sounds like a horrible, shallow, thick, misogynistic pig. £120 well spent! Good luck for the future op, please, please pick your standards up of the floor once he's gone, you deserve someone who's nice to you and loves and cherishes you.

gindaddyredux

Sorry but that is terrible advice. Many relationships go through bad patches and sometimes people drift apart and need to work on reconnecting...

But not when one partner is putting the other down in an apparently systematic attempt to undermine their self worth.

Someone who makes spiteful comments about your appearance and makes no attempt at any intimacy is not your friend and not worthy of your respect or love. You will not set a good example to your children if you tolerate this.

Yes I think you should LTB

Don't stay fir the kids. Leave for the kids!
Honestly it will be better and they are all young. I felt awful leaving with a 5 year old. Yes nearly 8 now and honestly fine, I don't think he ever really remembers not just living with me much.

Thanks all. It seems the writing is on the wall. Lawyer meeting isn't for a couple of weeks. I really hope I can keep the house but I'm doubtful it'll be possible and we are mortgaged up to our eyeballs ☹️

He sounds nasty and spiteful. I think there's no going back from this. I'd cut my losses.

You deserve so much better