WIBU to sell gifts on eBay?

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My mum buys my children a lot of clothes. A LOT. She loves bargains and she gets a lot of branded stuff for relatively cheap. It's very sweet of her and I'm very grateful... but. For starters I have far more than my kids need and nowhere to put it all (she tends to buy bigger sizes that they won't fit into for a year). Also, my DS is 5 and he likes bright colours and dinosaurs where most of the stuff she buys is quite plain with just e.g. Nike or Reebok branding. And for my DD there is so much pink and so many frills. I have nothing against pink but I don't want all pink all the time and I'm not going to put her in a frilly dress for nursery when I know she's going to come back filthy.

Would I be an absolute CF to sell some of the stuff she's given them on eBay? Would it be better to give it to charity? I know the answer to that... but quite honestly I could do with the extra cash.

And before anyone suggests it, no I can't ask my mum to stop buying so much. She would take it as a personal attack no matter how kindly I said it, and it would just cause drama that I don't have the energy for.

What's a cf?

@Irelate first day here?

It’s a cheeky fucker.

Of course you should sell them that’s what eBay is there for, probably 50% of their business.

However, is there really no way you can get your mum to see that there is better way to spend her money?

You could just ask her to be fair OP, it all sounds so wasteful and if she's that unreasonable I doubt it will go down any better when she eventually finds out somehow you've sold the bits on, asks where they are etc.

It sounds like a lot of energy goes into tiptoeing around her and keeping her happy. Is she like this with everything? It sounds stressful for you and as though it generates a lot of guilt.
She's an adult ultimately and it is perfectly reasonable to point out she's been very generous but you have (literally) more than you need and certain things aren't your taste. She's throwing her money in the bin, it isn't a bargain if nobody wants it

Re: your original question - it's yours so yes you can sell it, if you need the money then I don't think there's any reason to feel overly guilty. It isn't your fault your DM overbuys. Just do what you need to do

Once someone has given you a gift, it's yours to do what you want with.
Of course sell instead of wasting them! You won't get much, but it's better than nothing.

If it makes you feel better, put all the money in a saving account for the kids.

@excuseforfights I wish! She has occasionally asked me if there's anything I need for them but then totally ignored my answer and before DD was born (and before my mum had bought anything) I said I didn't want to dress her in nothing but pink and my mum rolled her eyes, told me to "stop being so PC" and said, "Little girls love pink so you're going to have to get used to it, I'm afraid."

@dontgobaconmyheart yes, she is like this with everything. But she means well and she adores her grandchildren so I don't think it's worth the inevitable drama of telling her. And I live 300 miles away so I don't have to deal with her all the time!