Firstly I apologise because over the last 1.5 years I've posted a lot for advice! I've found it very helpful given my situation.
I'm mid divorce and my solicitor has been waiting on ex h financial information for upwards of about 5 months now, the form has not moved from his desk this whole time, I see it every time I pick up ds's. I have asked multiple times how he's getting on with it and am met with things such as:
-just waiting on bank statements
-why do you even need a lawyer
-why can't we just have mediation
-so and so didn't use a solicitor etc
In the last 1.5 years his behaviour has consisted of stalking me, making me think someone was breaking into my bedroom window because he was outside trying to see in and listen to me, causing a nightmare as new partners place of work (this was quite some time after we were separated and he had a new gf by this point), multiple times listening to me/watching me outside windows at my house, threatening suicide, and after a year me finding out he had a hidden camera watching me in my bedroom. There's also been multiple other things that have gone on
He is a great emotional black mailer and an expert at making people feel sorry for him, and I still get drawn into that sometimes! We were together 15 years it's very difficult to just stop. I told him a week ago that it's getting ridiculous now, the lawyer needs the information, fees will go up a lot and it needs doing. Since then he has given me the silent treatment, one word answers regarding dc's, looking sad whenever we have sorted out children.
Last night a received a message from him apologising and saying he just finds it so difficult and he's struggling with coming to terms with things still and that I shouldn't feel guilty etc etc... now I don't feel like I can push him on the financially info for the lawyer because I feel bad! And he still hasn't given it in.
Is he still emotionally blackmailing me like he has many times before? Sorry for the long post!