Relationship

[Fedup501]

Would any one be happy if your partners grown up children use your car to pick up his ex wife and he thinks it acceptable

Argh. You do* seem.
MumsNet needs an edit button.

Why is it disrespectful?

Did they borrow it without asking? Did you need it? Did they lie about what they were using it for?

If so, YANBU.

If not, YABU.

Yes. I’d be happy.

I don't understand what the problem is tbh.

Does the car belong to both yourself and your partner? Did they ask before borrowing it?

If so and it's just the fact that they're picking up your partner's ex that bothers you then YABU and extremely childish.

My ex's girlfriend gave me and DS a lift somewhere the other day as I don't drive and ex was working.

No, I would struggle to find a problem with adult stepchildren given their mum a lift in my car. I'm trying very hard but can't think of a scenario where I would feel disrespected. Unless he was still shagging her

based on your post i would say yabu and sound like a spiteful woman who is jealous just because this woman has fked your man.

Is it your car or your family's car?

Are they insured to drive it?

Is there a backstory?

Did they ask for permission to use the car?
Are they insured to drive the car?
Is it your car or a joint car?
Who gave permission to borrow it?
Did you need it at that time?
How long since the divorce? I'm guessing not long based on your reaction.

Yabu and petty

If they've borrowed it legally with your/dh's knowledge then no, it's fine that they have given their mum a lift and yadbu and childish.
If they've borrowed it without telling anyone then that's the problem, not who they ferried around.

By "our car" do you mean a car that your BF bought, maintains, insures and owns but allows you to drive?

Oh dear, you sounds jealous, petty and immature. You need to stop being ridiculous before you make a complete fool of yourself.

Would you feel disrespected if they picked up one of their friends?
Or is it because it is the mum?

I can't work out if you don't want the mum in the car or you don't want your partners kids driving it.

If you can't handle your partner having contact with his ex then you shouldn't be in a relationship with someone who has children.

It’s totally fine unless there is huge amount of backstory like they then tried to run you over?

For the sake of the kids you should try to adopt a better attitude about their mum unless there's some criminal history you failed to mention or she has a highly communicable disease.

So your kids would never do that to pick their own dad up as they would be respectful of your DH feelings?

You should just give the car to the ex-wife/mother of your SC OP, she obviously needs it and it would be the nice thing to do

OP, are they insured?

If not, YANBU. If they are, YABU.

I don't understand what the problem is tbh.

Oh come on, we all know what the problem is. The OP is upset that she is in a relationship with a man who has a past in the form of an ex who is the mother of his children. There’s jealousy, and insecurities.

Understand now?

Of course I understand what's likely to be the issue. I was addressing the OP and asking for an explanation from her.

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OP?

Disrespectful? How? Disrespectful of what?