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AIBU?

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To think I’m not being taken seriously by hv and gp

4 replies

PurpleThistles84 · 08/07/2020 12:33

My baby is 12 and a half months old and doesn’t roll, crawl, try to stand and so on. He is my fifth baby. I KNOW something isn’t right with him. This isn’t just a delay in his gross motor skills. Even silly little things, like him never having lifted his bum off the floor when laid on his back. His mental capability and social skills are all normal, it is purely his physical development. I have had four other children, two of which are autistic and I knew almost from the day they were born that something wasn’t right.

I feel like I’m not being taken seriously however. The GP has said that until he is 18 months old they wouldn’t even consider him delayed. The HV has listened more and at least agreed to put him forward for a referral to a paediatrician but in the current situation I imagine I’m looking at months before he will be seen.

It’s actually affecting my own mental health, in that some days I can ignore my instincts and I’m okay, other days i am really upset and feel like I’m not doing enough to get him the support he needs. Am I supposed to sit and wait for months?

I’m not even sure if he is in discomfort as he has always been a high needs baby and is very prone to crying jags. I can’t even say what it might be, I just know that there is something going on. AIBU to think I’m not being taken seriously enough?

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Four4me · 08/07/2020 12:44

Sounds tough.
Around here in normal times there are drop in sessions run by the child development centre with physiotherapists and speech therapists that you just turn up to.

These sessions will not be running, but there maybe some remote (video sessions) to replace them (I'm grasping at straws).

I'm a mum of 4 (a physiotherapist and a mum of a developmentally delayed young adult) and if I were in your situation I think I'd try contacting the local hospital CDC dept to ask about any 'drop in centre' alternative.
Take some videos of your DC and keep pushing if you are concerned.
Trust your instincts. Good luck x

Four4me · 08/07/2020 12:45

You need some advice to help you facilitate his development. Some exercises and positioning.
Also ask about the local Portage advice.

AndWhat · 08/07/2020 12:55

I’m in a similar situation. I knew my sons speech was delayed but had to wait for a 2 year assessment which I had to do myself at home. Except we then hit lockdown and they wouldn’t do anything with the results, it’s been a shit show! Now they’ve told me as they haven’t seen him he can’t even have a speech referral. Hopefully once I get him through the system I don’t have to deal with the health visitors ever again!

MrsPatrickDempsey · 08/07/2020 15:01

There is no excuse for referrals not being made at this time. In our area consultations are taking place by phone or video link.

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