To wonder who doesn't like me?

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I get on with everyone I know and have a small group of friends but sometimes wonder out of the acquaintances I have are there some who don't like me and would i want to know? (There must be surely) If you had a super power that could reveal that to you would you want to know?

It's better not to know unless there is an actual problem.

Would you want them to know you know?

No I wouldn't want them to know

I find the older I get the less I care

No, I wouldn’t want to know because as a pp said, the older I get the less I care. Also I wouldn’t change myself for them so there’s no point in knowing. I think you can usually tell whether people like you or not anyway.

I heard once (from a public speaker) that statistically 20% of the people will not like you...They said "so you might as well stop worrying about it".

I have never researched this and have no idea if it is true. I like it though as I am a bit prone to worrying about what people think of me. If I suspect someone doesn't like me I tell myself that they are just in my 20%.

I’m polite and nice to everyone so if an acquaintance didn’t like me I would think of it more as their problem than mine. They’re free not to like me - not everyone likes everyone else! But if I haven’t done anything malicious to hurt them then I understand them not liking me is based on their own preference, rather than my bad behaviour - so it’s out of my hands. It’s quite freeing really.

YABU. Life’s to short to give a damn about what others think. Do what makes you happy, sod them.
Just holds you back worrying about pointless things like that.

It's never really bothered me if someone likes me or not. The only issue I would have with it is if it is a colleague and means they're not acting in a professional manner. I suspect a colleague doesn't like me-tbh the feeling is mutual, I don't particularly like him-but we're civil and polite in work and we're still able to engage in small talk so it's a non issue. I don't need to see him out of work times. Even if there was a staff night out I could still deal with it by talking with others but remaining polite eg offering him a drink if I was going to the bar.

Not worried about if they don't like me but as everyone appears to the suspicious side if me thinks hmmmm

I always say to my teenagers that a few people will like you a lot, a few people wont like you at all and most people wont be that bothered either way.

As my uncle used to say, "fuck 'em".

I always say to my DD that you won’t like everyone and everyone won’t like you. But that’s fine. As long as you’re courteous and civil, it really doesn’t matter and it certainly isn’t a reason to change yourself or to worry about it.

What people think of me is none of my business 😉

Just because somebody doesn't like you wouldn't mean that they actively dislike you. They just don't have positive liking for you.

I agree that it's best not to worry about shit like this.

I always think that lots of people think they like or dislike a person initially but then get to know them better or you get to see an aspect of them that you had never anticipated and boom, it changes. It's all so very subjective.

Sorry what was the question again? .

But yy r.e. Superpower, my choice has always been mind-reading, what can be better than that?

Nope. I don't care. I like me and that's all that matters!

Have you read the Narnia series? There's a chapter about one of the children looking through a magician's book, and seeing acquaintances gossiping about her. This thread reminds me of that.

People tend to dislike me as I am autistic; there's research about this topic. So I have learned to have low expectations of how many people will like me.

I worry about this too. I’m actually a really nice person but I know I can be opinionated, I speak over people and i don’t have much empathy! I actually don’t like going out now as I just analyse every conversation I had the next day and worry about what I’ve said 🙄. I have to really force myself to listen to others. At nearly 50 I’m still hopeful I can change 😂

My curiosity would definitely drive me to finding out, if I could. Knowing wouldn't help me though!

I like to think people I have regard for reciprocate, and that the people who don't like me I don't really care about either.

The older I get, the less I care.

I can only really think of 2 people I've met, who made it perfectly clear they didn't like me. I always tried to be pleasant, but it was always thrown back in my face. Eventually I stopped trying. Their loss.

I'd rather not know if someone disliked me secretly. What good would it do?

One thing I’ve learnt is no one is thinking about you ever really. Unless your completely offensive, everyone is too wrapped up in their own lives.

I overheard 3 of my very closest friends comparing me to someone not very nice on TV and laughing about my shortcomings. They don’t know I overheard and I don’t really know how to fix the issues. We’re still very close, I know they love me, but I wish I didn’t know!

I think you’d know. Very few people are that good at hiding actual dislike. I certainly can’t hide it if I don’t like someone and it has made things tricky occasionally! I can’t bear ‘two-faced-ness’ though; I’ll be polite but try and keep my distance from those I don’t like rather than pretend.

I don't really think about who hates me tbh.
What I do think about though, if people talk about me behind closed doors. And if so what do they say?