AIBU to say to DH

[Lightofthephoenix]

That he can't take the DC out of school in Sept to take them on holiday for a week.

This has caused a huge upset tonight as he asked the DC if they want to go (secondary school age) of course they said yes.

I won't be able to get time off work so he has planned to take them away himself.

I know the school won't allow it and I think they have already missed enough school already and will be playing catch up from Sept and of course the possible Covid risk.

He is making me out to be the bad person in all this by saying no, AIBU?

YANBU, usually I'm fairly flexible with term time holidays, but I don't think they should be taken this year, they've missed enough already!

He should have spoken to you before asking

September is too close to book anything, you run the risk of cancellation due to corona and being uninsured

I agree with you on the schooling

Surely it would be nicer to wait til October half term and all go away together

I've taken mine on holiday during term time, but this year they've missed too much.

September this year is definitely not the time to do this.

You won't get Permission from school, it won't be exceptional circumstances.
He can arrange a holiday in school holiday time like the rest of us have to. (And why would arrange a holiday without you?)

He's being an idiot to want to take them out of school when teachers will desperately be doing intensive catch up work from Sept for key learning the pupils in each year missed over the previous term during coronavirus school closures.

You're not the bad guy, he's an irresponsible parent. DCs night equally like to stay up until 1am each night and do no homework but you wouldn't agree it nor offer to arrange it for them, as it's not responsible parenting. Who cares what the DCs think?!

Thank you everyone, I didn't think I was in the wrong but DH made me feel so bad I just wanted reassurance I wasn't just being a bitch by saying no unnecessarily.

@Lightofthephoenix

Thank you everyone, I didn't think I was in the wrong but DH made me feel so bad I just wanted reassurance I wasn't just being a bitch by saying no unnecessarily.

It's quiet worrying that you feel like you are being a bitch if you say 'no that's not a great parenting decision, as their other parent I have a say'

Parenting is shared and he should never have talked to children about it without talking to you first. Does he do this often? It's a dick move by your DH to play 'good irresponsible cop bad cop' in something that didn't need to go down like this.

Point out to him it's not you saying no, it's that the school simply won't allow it, for all the reasons posters have already mentioned. Does he think a holiday now will be worth the damage to their education?

Suggest October half term?

We are taking dc out for 2 weeks in October...

Absolutely no to this! They’ve had months off! Your H needs to give himself a shake!

October half term at the earliest or he can pre book sometime in 2021.

What is he like?!