I have someone in one of my offices who I’m supposed to have catch ups with, relationship building, for me to head off problems etc. It’s part of my role not to manage them but to provide technical support and guidance. This person refuses to deal with me and will deal only with the men on my team, one of whom is senior to me and my boss, the other isn’t.
There have been no arguments or character clashes as he’s refused to engage with me so no opportunity to.
I’ve raised this with my boss whose response is that he’ll take over the relationship, and feed any actions (work) back for me to manage.
AIBU in thinking my boss should tell him he has to engage with me. It’s part of both our jobs and there’s no reason not to. He does have a reputed being difficult with women and I think my boss should support me.