To keep my daughter off school for the day!

[Starlet7992]

My daughter turns 5 this week! Both dc went back to school recently. Dd is in every day and DS isn’t back every day yet. Only 2-3 days a week depending on how he manages - he has additional needs.

So on her birthday she’ll be going to school and he won’t be 😬😬 she was already upset because Ds had his birthday off school during lockdown and she won’t but now DS will be off school on her birthday too.

I’m just wondering aibu to keep her off for the day? I know they’ve just had 3 months off but she won’t be impressed her brother gets both his and her birthday off 🤣

End of term soon anyway!

Aibu? I’ve never kept them off for no good reason before!

YABU - send her

YANBU - keep her off

I would let her have the day off. One day amongst all that has been going on and at age 5, I wouldn't think twice.

I'd normally say no way but at the moment, this is the only time you can do it without the school having any repercussions on their absence rates or any repercussions on you. So I'd say go for it as a one off

Thank you. They both have fantastic attendance generally (99 percent for DS last year) (before covid obviously). Not something I’d normally do but feel sad for her. She really wanted a Party too and obviously that won’t happen. Thinking a day off and a mid week trip to the zoo as it should be quieter??

I would, personally. Just be cautious about what you tell the school though as saying she’s unwell may lead to her getting more time off than you’d bargained for!

I’ll be completely honest I think @Pumpertrumper 😀 not sure what they will say! But they have said that parents are under no obligation to send their children. Obviously mine have gone back so have a place (they both EHCP’s so they would be a space whether I sent them or not) so hoping they won’t mind. 🤞

Give her the day off - school is not currently compulsory!

Since our two went back we have sent them in full time however gave them both a day off for my husbands birthday last month and they will be having a day off for our youngest daughters (she is turning 6) birthday as well.

We have explained to them that obviously it is not what we would usually be able to do but we are making the most of the current situation as best we can.

As long as you let school know, they shouldn't have a problem with it.

I hope she has a lovely day :)

I think let her have it off but explain it's only this year and if next birthday is on a school day she will have to go. Like your idea of a zoo or something, make it special for her

Thanks. She will understand it’s only this year. If they were both in school I would have sent them but DS will be off. She will be upset that he gets her birthday off and not her 🤣 oh has booked the day off too (booked it off way before covid so he’d be home to see her open gifts in the morning and again after school as he would miss everything being at work for the day).

I’d do it 100%

Hello school my child is ill and won't be on today... No need to tell the school anything else

don't lie to the school ....

I think it's a bit disrespectful not to send your child in, as teachers/school staff are making a huge effort to accommodate them at the moment.
Also - is your daughter being in, stopping another child being in (some schools had limited places available?). I definitely would send them in if this is the case.

I won’t lie to the school 😀 and no she’s definitely not taking a place of another child. Neither of them. They have additional needs and EHCP’s so they have a place set in stone. was told even if I decided not to send them the school still need to reserve that place but they did go back! Also Dd is in reception the whole year group are invited back! Most of them are back!