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for not talking to my friend over her actions during virus

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maggieryan · 07/07/2020 13:42

In March when the world and his sister knew to stay at home and keep teenagers indoors, my friend was letting her 14 year old son out to play football with 3 others, she said a woman approached them telling them they were wrong to be out, and her son "quire rightly" said they are allowed out in groups of 4, which they were. I told her he shouldnt really be out, and i can understand the womans fustrations, if hes out playing that means every other kid will think its okay to be out and the whole thing is keep indoors. She said when the government tell me to stay indoors i will do so. I said just because the government havent put us in lockdwon they were asking us to stay at home, especially teenagers, its common sense. She disagreed.. I now find it so hard to talk to her, i know her since we were kids, but just found that attitude so arrogrant. She has tried to make contact wiht me and i have to be honest, i have brushed her off. I hate losing her friendship in one way but it still bugging me. So am i right or wrong or was she right? Tell me honestly. I can take it :)

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Quartz2208 · 07/07/2020 15:31

Was this before lockdown if so the world and his sister didn’t know

Coyoacan · 07/07/2020 15:33

One of the loveliest, kindest and most considerate people I know behaved totally irresponsibly in respect of covid.

You shouldn't expect perfection from other people or take such umbrage at a difference of opinion. But maybe you didn't value her friendship anyway and are glad to get rid.

AlfrescoWee · 07/07/2020 15:36

A lot of my (non vulnerable) friends have had (IMO) very OTT views on the COVID-19 situation. Going out once a week, quarantining groceries, that kind of thing. I'm sure they consider me unnecessarily relaxed. I have largely followed the rules but not entirely.

I manage not to fall out with them about it. Just keep your views to yourself unless they directly affect you. Unlikely a 5 aside game of football will cause unnecessary spread and it's too late now if it has!

lifesalongsong · 07/07/2020 15:38

@Coyoacan

One of the loveliest, kindest and most considerate people I know behaved totally irresponsibly in respect of covid.

You shouldn't expect perfection from other people or take such umbrage at a difference of opinion. But maybe you didn't value her friendship anyway and are glad to get rid.

I'm not sure how someone can be kind and considerate and at the same time irresponsible in respect of covid.

How does a kind person put others are risk of serious illness? I think that would change my opinion of someone

Hearhoovesthinkzebras · 07/07/2020 15:41

One of the loveliest, kindest and most considerate people I know behaved totally irresponsibly in respect of covid.

I'd be seriously reviewing my understanding of loveliest, kindest and most considerate tbh. How can you be those things and also totally irresponsible in regards to a global pandemic that killed thousands of people?

peanutsandpinenuts · 07/07/2020 16:00

You may be in the right here although we don't know her side but its silly to let a good friendship go over this. Make it up with her x

butterpuffed · 07/07/2020 16:30

I don't think we were given any specific advice about teenagers ?

TheOrigBrave · 07/07/2020 16:53

From your OP it sounds like it happened before lockdown, in which case while things were certainly closing down, the government hadn't given their official guidance.

There has been no specific guidelines for teenagers that I know of.

JovialNickname · 07/07/2020 17:56

Well, technically you're right, but you also sound like a killjoy/crashing bore. God forfend a couple of teenagers might kick a ball to each other! But yes, if you feel it's really a hill to die on, yes you should never speak to her again. Why not scratch her car and post dog shit through her letterbox while you're at it Grin

Mistressiggi · 07/07/2020 18:12

Before lockdown I was teaching teenagers in classes of up to 30 so I can't get worked up about a few of them playing football.

Coyoacan · 07/07/2020 19:43

I'd be seriously reviewing my understanding of loveliest, kindest and most considerate tbh. How can you be those things and also totally irresponsible in regards to a global pandemic that killed thousands of people?

I don't know. But she has past actions to prove what a lovely person she is.

Evelefteden · 07/07/2020 19:47

I think lots of people are going to feel differently about friends and family after this.

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