Monster baby

[NoTimeLikeThePresent82]

My baby has always affectionately been called a monster, by almost everyone who's met him. Even my husband calls him "Monster Munch." I think I see why, but it's bothering me as he gets a bit older (he's 19 months now.) I think I'm just worried that they might all be right - he looks just like a monster.

He's got the most chilled, happy character in the world, but he's fat, he eats a lot, and he's got a shock of ginger, curly hair. He laughs and smiles all the time, and because he's a pudding, he loves his cuddles. Strangers stop to talk to him in the supermarket and the street - he has this humorous ability to attract people, because he is a funny, sunny baby. People laugh at him in surprise. He doesn't look anything like me. Or my DH.

But he's impossible to keep clean. He acts a bit like a monster in that he's always a state to look at. He's always got mud or dribble, or some muck on him. He's motivated by food, and his HAIR, it's just so wild and well, ORANGE!

I thought he'd be a bit more presentable when his teeth came through but there's big gaps in between the front ones, so if anything, it's made him look even more monstery than before. He's such a happy chappy, I don't want him to be teased but I know people are saying it from a place of love and affection.

AIBU to ask people to stop calling him a monster? It's literally the first thing people say when they see him. He was a big baby when he came out, so he's always been cuddly.

Op I dont know why you are being pulled to pieces on here. I totally understand where you are coming from with your description. Its obvious OP loves her baby and thinks he is gorgeous, she is just trying to explain how she thinks others see him .
I think ' monster's nowadays doesn't really mean big ugly ogre, but more affectionate.
He sounds lovely x

I think monster is now likely to be about his size than that they think he's ugly and odd looking op. My first thought on your title was "oh i wonder if he's as big as the twins". Who are also known as the piglets. Not because they're funny looking but because they like their food and are podgy/fat/rotund

It sounds like you had an expectation of this cold who would resemble you / DH and would sit there clean and well behaved. Instead you have a cure typical child

He sounds gorgeous and growing into a fantastic toddler.

Don't fret, everything will even out - the teeth thing etc. Toddlers are supposed to be filthy 😁

Personally I wouldn't stop family from calling him that - it's all affectionate.

He sounds great tbh.

and because he's a pudding, he loves his cuddles

What?

@SpillTheTeaa

Wow, you make it sound as though I don’t love him. I have other children too, & they’re not “perfect.” My post was supposed to be light-hearted but you’ve managed to assume the worst.

And how do you know he hasn’t got all his teeth?????

You sound like a very angry person TBH. Not sure why you bothered taking the time to add your two pennies worth.

He sounds absolutely brilliant. I wish I was young enough to try for a Monster Baby with red curls ! How gorgeous .

He sounds lovely but maybe nicely, say you'd like to knock the "monster" thing on the head now that he's starting to understand words and may not get what people are saying.

I so miss DS being a little fat thing covered in jam

Wow!

Maybe you should take a look at the posts from people who are desperate for a child and remind yourself how lucky you are!

And how do you know he hasn’t got all his teeth?????

To be fair, if he has got a full set of teeth at 19 months, then maybe there is something a bit monstery about him...

He sounds gorgeous and you sound like you love him tons!! I wouldn't like people calling my baby that now she's old enough to start understanding (she's 19 months too) so I would ask that they stop.

@SmallChickBilly

And how do you know he hasn’t got all his teeth?????

To be fair, if he has got a full set of teeth at 19 months, then maybe there is something a bit monstery about him...

My daughter has all her baby teeth at 19 months, it's not uncommon

Maybe you should take a look at the posts from people who are desperate for a child and remind yourself how lucky you are!

I don't think the OP is wanting to put him back

She's worried he will be teased. Being gap-toothed and red headed are all things that people get absolutely bullied for in this country. She didn't say she hated her baby because of it. She wants to know if she should stop people teasing him for it.

Leave OP alone, some of you really love an argument.

OP, he sounds lovely. Don't worry if people are calling him a monster, I'm sure it's meant very affectionately. I call mine a monster sometimes, if he actually was one then I wouldn't dream of it. He's also a sausage but I don't want to eat him with chips.

I would just say "I know what you mean but we don't say that anymore now he's picking things up".

Also toddlers covered in jam etc are the BEST. I miss those years now. Chubby arms and fat little legs, jammy cheeks. I hoped for a ginger baby but no luck.

My daughter has all her baby teeth at 19 months, it's not uncommon

I think they get some more at 7 and 12? But they don't really affect their smiles too much and mine basically had all their teeth by twelve months.

Maybe you should take a look at the posts from people who are desperate for a child and remind yourself how lucky you are!

Oh stop it.

Op your baby sounds adorable!

All of these things will change when he’s older. Teeth come together when they are bigger, hair can be cut into trendy styles and they stop dribbling.

For now you have a lovely baby that sounds like he adorably does not fit the mould.

When kids start worrying about what they look like he’ll be absolutely fine and will have his own style.

Everybody comments on my babies hair (orange) but he looks positively beautiful with it. I’ll just be sure to tell him regularly that he has the most beautiful hair colour and that others comment only because it’s different. I will then tell him he has the coolest colour ha!

I think this thing has built up around him and you’ve let it kind of affect how you see him - but it’s doesn’t need to. He sounds lovely and not all babies / toddlers have to look like nappy advert models. Just love your chunky wild-haired smily child for all of who he is.

I sometimes call my (much older) DC monsters as in “snack monster” or “cuddle monster” when they are demanding those things - and milk-hungry babies often get called “milk monster”. Maybe if you only use it that way and stop thinking about actual monsters iyswim, you can start to move people away from the idea.

@Ravenclawgirl

Another person who has completely missed the point! When did I say I didn’t want him? What a negative assumption!

I’m worried he’s getting old enough to be aware of being teased for his looks. I think he’s an adorable monster, but I don’t want him to feel hurt.

Please don’t comment if you just want to be angry at someone for an imagined slight. Thanks

I think you need to learn to love and be proud of your baby's red hair. Red hair is beautiful.