Family duty

[Mamamamycorona]

So we have moved recently- before lockdown. Families are all close together, geographically. We as a family, couple eyc, could do with a reset and rediscovery of each other. DH has decided we are off to his family.

I understand and the grandparents are desperate to see the children, I just feel a bit denied of a holiday for us because the family get priority.

Where were you going on holiday? Stuff is only just opening anyway

Your post is quite confusing.

On the face of it surely yabu. Haven't you had enough time together in lockdown...most people are desperate to see someone different!

Who made your DH the decision maker? This should have been a discussion between the two of you.

If you don't want to go, make your voice heard.

When you say "off to his family" do you mean going on holiday with his family?

What's your relationship like with his family? Have you told him you'd like more quality time? What's your relationship with your DH like?

More info needed please.

Wave him goodbye then.

Surely this is something you discuss together and agree a compromise?

Your post isn’t very clear but I think at the moment a lot of people will have a priority to see family they haven’t been able to for months

You want a holiday your dh has decided the holiday is to visit parents?

Yeah I’d be pissed tbh.

I'd be pissed off if he wanted to go on holiday rather than see my parents after 4 months of not seeing them.

You need to "re-discover" each other as a family? You've been at home together for months surely?

@youhave4substitutes

I'd be pissed off if he wanted to go on holiday rather than see my parents after 4 months of not seeing them.

You need to "re-discover" each other as a family? You've been at home together for months surely?

I think she means if she wasn’t going to the in laws maybe she’d be able to have sex on holiday? Again ... awaiting someone snapping at me.

What? Who is snapping at you?

Can OP only have sex on holiday?

What? Who is snapping at you?

Can OP only have sex on holiday?

YABU, family that you’ve not seen in months is far more important than a holiday in the middle of a pandemic.

@youhave4substitutes

What? Who is snapping at you?

Can OP only have sex on holiday?

No it’s just the phrasing of “re-discover” as if she’s been too uptight to at home.

I’m confused too.

Most of our holiday time involves traveling to see family. It’s what you have to do if you don’t live close.

Can't you combine the 2? We've had 3 holidays kyboshed by this virus and although we have been locked down together this has been combined with wfh and home schooling do we are in desperate need of a holiday. We're off for a self catering break in England in August and will spend a few days with MIL on the way back.

How close do they live?