Contacting my friend who is depressed?

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I am conflicted as my friend is depressed and does not want to talk and has isolated at home.
Should I send a text every now and again even when it goes unopened every time or do I let go t go.
My friend is in a very bad place at the moment.
Thank you.

I would send a message every now and again, letting them know that you are thinking about them.
do you live nearby? Could you bring over some food that just needs heated up?

I would do what you feel is right. I think if they weren't receptive to calls or meeting up I would text, yes. 'Hey how are you doing? Was just thinking of you - here if you want to talk.' or maybe send links to music/videos they might like or whatever. This is what I would do to just check in with someone.

If they become receptive to talking more I might then see if they need more support - maybe to go to their GP or look into therapy.

If they were talking about self harm or suicide I would have to do more, and urgently.

I don't live nearby. I don't want to bug my friend but don't want to walk away either . When does it get to the point that your messages are being constantly ignored so you walk away?

Apologies if you’re a different poster, but if this “friend” is the guy you were briefly seeing who has recently suffered a bereavement and asked for space, you really do need to leave well alone now and move on.

If not, I guess it depends on your friendship as to how often you reach out. With close friends I’d know them well enough to know whether they’d appreciate me touching base, or if the pressure of feeling like they need to reply would be too much for them. Equally it depends how many messages you’ve already sent that have gone unanswered?

I’m the friend in this situation and I appreciate kind messages that don’t pressure me for a reply.

It sounds like you want something your friend can’t give right now though.

I am Female and my friend is female.
I do not need anything from her but am concerned about her.

You do it for as long as you need or want to. No one can answer that.

I'd maybe contact weekly for a few weeks, then fortnightly, the monthly...

Just see

I've sent four messages. I send one a week with emphasis on not needing to reply but sending good thoughts

Send the text, I’m not doing too good right now, but receiving messages from love ones is a massive help, I can’t stress that enough. I rarely reply immediately, but a kind text means the world

Thanks. I have been through a terribly hard time recently so I am
Worried that my friend is trying not to burden me but my strength of friendship for her and care and compassion is stronger for her than anything I've been through of late .