To not want to go on the group holiday

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We’ve had a UK holiday booked since the beginning of the year, before lockdown, and with the restrictions easing it’s looks like we might be able to go (the booking is for early Aug.) It would be three different families in separate holiday homes but with a shared garden. Everyone else is keen to go and thinks we can distance but I think it feels too risky. It's mixed family groups including younger people and parents in their 60s and 70s and I'm not sure we should be mingling but I seem to be in the minority! Thoughts?

Sounds like big families.

For me, it would be up to the family members who need shielding (aka the older parents) to decide if they wanted to come or not.

I would probably go. You have your own set up and are effectively meeting in a garden (although I suspect that may not last).

The only think that would maybe really stop me would be maybe a hospital worker or such on the trip who potentially has been in contact with many Covid patients. But even then I’m not 100% on the no as the circumstances might change my mind.

How many people in total?

Thanks for the reply - 15 in total. Some of the group do do public facing type jobs so I think my worry is around how confident we can be that everyone will be distancing in the run up. I may be over worrying though... Like your username as I think it applies here!

I think if things carry on as they are, you might not even have to worry about distancing by then, especially if you’re all being careful before you go.

I don’t think I would be so worried about public facing as, even though they can get close to people, it may not be for very long (seconds or minutes) and no physical contact either. DH is in one of these roles and whilst he could still catch it, it’s not comparable with frontline work.

Are you bringing parents who are vulnerable?

Yes - my parents are vulnerable but just by being in the at risk age group, not by any other factors.

It's up to you how close you get to other people. You can stay out of the garden and just chat from your doorway if you're that anxious. I think Covid will be with us for some years and we have to learn to live with it.

Get your parents some face shields for sitting in the garden, and keep the 2 metre distance. I've got one for wearing out when shopping.

Your parents are clearly old enough to weigh up the risks / benefits for themselves and make their decision. You decide if you are ok with going yourself (and for any children you have) and they will decide for themselves.

Yes, unless your pate feel pressured to go, make sure they know it’s completely up to them if they go but it can be a separate decision for you.

Are they traveling separately to you?

I know my parents are at the point that they would rather see us and get sick (or worse) than not see us and be fine or get sick or worse having not seen us. We are evaluating when we can see them over the summer (4 hours drive away).

It may be that the relaxed rules tighten up after another spike by then or it might be that they relax even more.

OK it sounds like IABU. Thank you everyone, I feel a bit calmer about it now!

I'm going to see my dad in August. He's in his 80s and I work in health care but both of us live in low Covid areas and given he's had heart attacks if I don't visit him soon I may not see him again any way. If there's an exacerbation here I'll reconsider but Covid isn't the only disease out there and I don't think it's going away in the next couple of years.
Face masks are not to protect the wearer. Elderly people outside are better off without them and inhaling fresh dry air rather than CO2 rich moist air and with other people keeping their distance.

I thought only two households could holiday together anyway?

They’re in separate properties. I’m not sure how it’s different to being in a hotel with strangers.

Two households holidaying together is about sharing the same property. They’re not.

*accommodation rather than property even