DS and DD are 3 years apart. DS is book wise, got into a good Uni. up north; worked every weekend and holiday in a kitchen job, for three years; took a salaried placement year and is graduating this summer.
We helped him financially during these years, instead of him taking student loan. We are not well off, just modest salaries and lots of scrimping.
During this time DD finished school, she is more street wise, chose not to go to Uni., studied for a one year Tourism qualification, and is finishing this summer too. DD lives at home, had no accommodation cost and we pay for food, washing, her college tuition and pocket money.
During the past months we worked on our finances and found out that all in all we spent 20k more on DS's University education than we did on DD’s.
DD learnt this through our casual conversations and had bad feelings, she now asks us to buy her a car that costs specifically 'no less than 20k ' to make it even for her.
I have mixed feelings, what would you say to her if you were me?