Online Dating Websites why does no-one message you back?!

[vinyasaflow]

Joined Match and eHarmony a few weeks back. Sent some likes and a few messages just saying hello that kind of thing...... not one reply!!! I am a total newbie to this so please tellme if I'm doing it wrong or expecting too much!! Is this what OLD is like??!!

I met DH on Match and I agree that men don’t reply if you make the first move. I don’t know why. But I do think they are mainly looking at pictures at first and contacting the ones they fancy. Make your pics amazing and write a friendly normal write up.
Then wait...
It’s frustrating but let them contact you

It is a numbers game. I found DH on match 13 years ago but it took a good year on there before I found him and had a lot of bad contacts.

One was way older and read my profile but not properly. No had stated my dream job as x, he messaged me saying I see you are an x wow I hope you don’t work in y place. So skim reading.

One who sent me a dick pick and asked if I like ‘fisting‘ within 24 hours of first message.

A very strange guy who would e-mail me describing how busy he was for the next week. Almost as if stringing me along but not wanting to actually meet.

The gorgeous one who got away (oops), would have been a logistical nightmare anyway.

The one who winked and i wasn’t interested so I ignored and he sent me a snotty message.

Found my husband on POF. They do work but you have to make sure you give them a reason to reply.
Make your message interesting, ask questions.
Make sure your profile reads well.
Is there anyone you trust to read it for you and make sure you come across well.
I had to rewrite mine a few times to actually make it sound like me.

Internet dating is harsh. It is a cold world where you learn a lot about yourself and other people. Not always in a good way. You need to be resilient and detach from those that ignore you or each time it hurts and can chip away at your confidence.
I did it several times and after a while if gets exhausting. When you feel like that it's a good idea to take a break.
I met DH online 8 years ago so it does sometimes work out.
Be true to yourself, don't change to try and be what you think people want. Don't play games and just be genuine.

Found my DH on Ok Cupid. Two others in my immediate family married partners they also found online. I had some horrific dates and discovered a lot of idiots in the 2 years or so I was OLD. Definitely don’t take it personally. Also don’t commit to a full meal with someone on a date unless you’re really sure, drinks are often plenty of time. You can do it!