Just found out my 10 year partner potentially cheated on me at the start of our relationship.

[Cath025]

Only found out my partner has potentially cheated on me at the start of our relationship. A few months into our relationship I found old messages to his mate saying he is dying to have sex with one of his best girl mate and I know she did make dinner for him one night when I was out with my old friends at the time . I then seen another old message between him and my best friend at the time asking her to come down to his house for cuddles ect.. Obviously these are old messages from almost 10 years ago, which were at the beginning of our relationship. Currently he's a good partner and good dad to our kids. I trust him now but I was still abit annoyed reading those messages.. I don't think I'll bother letting him know that I've read the messages as its in the past anyway. What would you guys do??

How serious were you at the time?

I would just look out for red flags now. Saying he wanted to do something isn’t the same as it having actually happened and if you think those feelings on his side went away as his feelings for you grew then it’s all good.

Why are you reading 10-yr-old messages now?

Where are you reading 10 year old messages now? Surely over 10 years he's changed his phone and sim card?

What would you guys do??

Probably shag a couple of people I fancied when I had the opportunity.

Only joking .. well,mostly joking.

Sorry to say this but ime people who are unfaithful, even early on, are unfaithful; full stop. They lack integrity, Usually it's just down to opportunity (or lack of). Couldn't say I'd trust him massively.

How did you find these messages?

Ouch. That's a tricky one.
Agree it shows a lack of integrity but I've been in relationships where I wasnt faithful at the start but as feelings developed I wouldn't have dreamt of it.
How long had you been together at that point?