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To ask for another week of furlough?

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Fasttrack321 · 04/07/2020 22:33

I was furloughed at the start of lockdown and have not been working since end of March. I have been looking after my 2 young children full time as my DP has been working full time. Luckily DP's job is secure and their employer is flexible with WFH.

My furlough pay is capped at the limit of £2,500 and has not been topped up so my income has been about half of my normal pay. I am very grateful to have been furloughed rather than lose my job.

My employer wrote to me on Friday and informed me my furlough was ending and I was expected back to work on Monday. I discussed this with my DP (who is classed as a key worker, not front line) as the kids are only in part time childcare. DS is 5 and in Reception, DD is 3 and in nursery 3 days per week.

My DP is working full time 9-5 and cannot change working hours this week at such short notice. So cannot do drop off and pick up for the children (nursery and school are about 15 minutes drive apart). DP also cannot WFH and look after DD who is 3 and needs constant supervision.

This week will be impossible to juggle, but from the following week we can manage with flexible working hours and the help of a grandparent.

AIBU in asking my employer to extend my furlough by one more week? I checked the government guidance and there is a specific provision for this which allows furlough for those with caring responsibilities. I would only want this for 1 additional week.

I am incredibly grateful my employer has asked me to return and I do want to return. I have been there years and have a good reputation for being one of their top employers and managers.

My only other option would be to use a weeks annual leave, but then I'd have none left for the rest of the year and summer holidays when I would need to take leave to cover childcare again.

Most of the company were furloughed and now being brought back bit by bit.

YABU - get back to work immediately.
YANBU - take an extra week furlough to sort your childcare out.

OP posts:
laurenlodge · 04/07/2020 23:07

(this is all assuming you can wfh of course but I imagine you can based on your salary?)

QuestionableMouse · 04/07/2020 23:08

I requested a later return to work date and my boss asked me to put holiday in.

I did and we were both happy.

peanutbutterandfluff · 04/07/2020 23:13

Definitely ask. My DH remained on furlough longer than some of his colleagues due to childcare (our nursery only just reopened). Neither of us have jobs that can be done at home and we work shifts. Childcare as a reason for furlough is outlined in the guidance! Are people who are without childcare and who cannot work from home just meant to have gone unpaid the whole time since March!?!

Not everyone can work flexibly or WFH or change their hours at short notice!

LemonTT · 04/07/2020 23:15

Second post tonight where it has to be asked what is the father going to do to sort out childcare.

The ask should be to him before it is put on your employers or the public purse. Your employer will have enough headaches restarting without all this. The public purse has paid you to be at home allowing you to do childcare and for your husband to work ft uninterrupted.

He can take leave and explain to his employers he has emergency childcare needs. But really all he has to do is ask for some flexible start and end times.

Fasttrack321 · 04/07/2020 23:16

I can't work from home unfortunately otherwise I absolutely would do so.

My employer won't allow me to work shorter days and I can't make up the hours outside core trading hours as the business just doesn't operate like that.

My DP has a packed working week this week and cannot rearrange. However after this first week DP can be more flexible, take time off, work flex hours to do most of the drop offs and pick ups.

It's just this week coming due to hardly any notice. I would actually be happy to take it as unpaid leave but they've said that's not allowed at the moment. I hadn't thought of using A/L now and then asking for unpaid leave later in the year so thanks to whoever suggested that.

Someone mentioned my salary @ £5k per month V's my DP's job. I'm not sure what they meant but my DP earns twice what I do, so whilst I love my job and career, theirs brings in a lot more money!

OP posts:
Pixxie7 · 04/07/2020 23:17

Agree take annual leave, people seem to forget that it is the tax payer who is paying.

LemonTT · 04/07/2020 23:20

So what if your DP has a packed week. He won’t be the first person who has had a packed week but needed to take time off. It’s fairly rampant at the moment. His children need care. Why won’t he provide it for them?

Parker231 · 04/07/2020 23:22

An employer can set a furloughed employee back to work whenever the employer decides. As your DH is working from home he can deal with childcare in the same way as other parents currently working from home with DC’s. It may not fit with your employers plans for you to take holidays immediately after furlough.

Theyweretheworstoftimes · 04/07/2020 23:23

Nanny, childminder, nursery, supply teacher that isn't working currently?

you make £5k per month and your husband/partner makes even more?

You have the resources to fix this quickly.

Other people have sorted this and juggled since March. You have an absolute privilege in terms of earning.

You knew this day would come.

TherapistInATabard · 04/07/2020 23:25

£15k between you per month? [faints]

MaverickDanger · 04/07/2020 23:25

YY to @Theyweretheworstoftimes.

At least with that amount of monthly income, you have options afforded to you that a lot of others don’t.

WowOoo · 04/07/2020 23:27

What would your partner do if you were ill? If they absolutely cannot take the week off, you should take annual leave.
We share parental responsibility and take turns. You said he can WFH. So you go in and he misses a week?

DuesToTheDirt · 04/07/2020 23:27

The taxpayer is paying for your furlough. You earn far more than most of those taxpayers. Take annual leave.

ceeveebee · 04/07/2020 23:28

Pay for an emergency nanny., With £15k a month I can’t believe you haven’t got the ability to sort this without asking a load of randoms on mumnset!

Pinkyyy · 04/07/2020 23:28

Pay for childcare or take leave.

TBH you knew you weren't going to be on Furlough forever and it's careless of you not to have had provisions in place for your return to work.

ScubaSteven · 04/07/2020 23:29

YANBU to ask for a few day's grace to sort out childcare, you can be on furlough for this reason. Yes, all parents knew this was going to happen but that is very short notice for a return date.

Theyweretheworstoftimes · 04/07/2020 23:30

Your joint annual income is £180,000.

ResumetonormalASAP · 04/07/2020 23:30

Take the week as holiday.

ResumetonormalASAP · 04/07/2020 23:31

@Theyweretheworstoftimes

Indeed "Your joint annual income is £180,000"

so why doesn't OP take annual leave or hire a nanny etc etc etc...

AriettyHomily · 04/07/2020 23:32

Take the annual leave,
You'll be at home, 100%pay. Or your husband does.

TARSCOUT · 04/07/2020 23:32

Crikey £15k a month and you're on MN asking if you should request another weeks furlough. Hire a nanny!

mynamesmrdiggety · 04/07/2020 23:33

Christ Almighty. Take the holiday and delete the thread 🙄

mynamesmrdiggety · 04/07/2020 23:34

@TARSCOUT it's almost as if it's designed to get a reaction!!

AnnaBanana333 · 04/07/2020 23:34

@DuesToTheDirt

The taxpayer is paying for your furlough. You earn far more than most of those taxpayers. Take annual leave.
Yep. OP, you're goading, aren't you? There was no other reason to mention your salary.
Whichoneofyoudidthat · 04/07/2020 23:35

If you don’t ask, you don’t get. Ask.

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