I don't know what to do about upcoming birth!

[1stTimeMama]

I'm very conflicted about what to do with my impending birth. I have children already, and will be having a home birth, all being well. If for any reason I need to go in to hospital, my husband would have to stay at home and I'd go in on my own. We live 7 hours away from our families.

There was a chance I'd be having a section, and so had discussed with my parents them totally isolating, and then coming to us to be with the children whilst I went in to hospital with my husband. Now that's not happening, but WWBU to still have them isolate and come so they can meet the baby, and see us all?

It's the only way I can guarantee not being on my own if things go wrong, and all being well, they'd get to meet the baby, when otherwise there's no telling when that might be.

What would you do in this situation?

I think that would be fine if they are happy to do that. But I think in your position I'd be pushing for a c-section - why won't you be having one if that's what was initially planned?

Sorry I'm not sure i understand what you are asking. Where are you? In England it's okay to meet with one other household inside, so there's no reason your parents can't come over to look after your children.

@CeibaTree

I think that would be fine if they are happy to do that. But I think in your position I'd be pushing for a c-section - why won't you be having one if that's what was initially planned?

A home birth was always the original plan, then due to a medical concern that was raised, my iwn a anxiety, and logistic worries, after discussion with the midwife she suggested a section. However, after talking with the consultant last week, he actually said there'd be more risk doing the section, than if we went with the home birth.

@jgjgjgjgjg

Sorry I'm not sure i understand what you are asking. Where are you? In England it's okay to meet with one other household inside, so there's no reason your parents can't come over to look after your children.

Yes, we're in England. I hadn't seen anything about being able to meet another family, so that might just fix the problem. Would we still need to distance in the house, as I'm not sure the children could hold back from hugging my parents!

Are you able to have a relative stay with you in the near future ready to be there for when the labour begins? I can understand your worries so it may take some anxiety off if you’re prepared, then whatever way it goes there is someone to look after your children and someone to be with you. I hope it all goes well.

If your parents are willing to isolate before they come, just have them come to your area and watch the kids for the birth. Even with a home birth, it will be easier to have extra adults to watch the kids.

@Ishihtzuknot

Are you able to have a relative stay with you in the near future ready to be there for when the labour begins? I can understand your worries so it may take some anxiety off if you’re prepared, then whatever way it goes there is someone to look after your children and someone to be with you. I hope it all goes well.

My parents are the only option. I worry that its such a long way for them to come, they'd have to stop for a break etc. so would be then around other people before they got to us.

Can we not meet with another household or have i been doing it wrong?

I see my twin sisters new baby earlier he is bloody gorgeous.

If you can accept that your husband doesn’t actually need to be at the birth, then he can mind the children. That’s how I did it.