To ask them if they are actually coming?

[BollyHobs]

We have taken a villa in a country that quarantine restrictions won’t apply to. We booked for mid-July back in January. It’s been very stressful wondering if it would happen but now we are really looking forward to it.

As part of our holiday every year, we usually invite another family as our guests. This keeps teen DCs occupied and is often a way of DH and I repaying hospitality. Guests don’t pay for villa just transport/flights.

We are going in 2 weeks time and this year’s guests haven’t said if they are coming. They can be quite anxious and I have not wanted to push them but it is really getting close. I sent a text yesterday asking how they were feeling - no reply.

I really want to know. They definitely have booked flights and spent £££. But their DC told my DC they weren’t not coming cos of the pandemic. Gah. Still time to ask someone else if they pull out, maybe.

YABU - they are anxious, leave them to make up their minds
YANBU - two weeks to go, push them and invite someone else

@zigaziga

Are you going to be able to get someone else to drop everything and come on holiday with you with only two weeks notice

If someone offered me a villa I would be there tomorrow!

Me too! OP, do keep us posted .

Yes but lots of people are just back at not everyone can drop everything at a moments notice.

@Nousernameforme

Yes but lots of people are just back at not everyone can drop everything at a moments notice.

True...but I can dream

I’d message them and say ‘hi X - I know things are insane atm and I totally understand if you don’t want to come to blah. Could you let me know by tomorrow what your plans are as another family would love to come if you don’t feel safe. No hard feeling and no issue if you don’t fancy it but we’d obviously love it if you came.’

Just message or call to say that if they don’t give you a definite answer in 24 hours you’ll assume they’re not going and will invite others. Easy.

Hi OP,

To me, if you know people well enough to share a villa with them, you know them well enough to ask if they are coming in on a trip that takes place in two weeks time.

They don't sound like they're going to be Greg companions, to be honest.

Recommendations are not to share pool etc with another household so maybe they not keen. Just ask them if they still want to go?

Is a country you'll need to quarantine in? I can't see the point in going if so.

In any case it won't make any difference to your costs since you pay for villa anyway
Do you have another family lined up?
You caN just go your family anyway?

In answer to qs, the country is on the quarantine-exempt list.

I don’t have anyone lined up to go because we’d invited this family. However, the flights are cheap and a few people have cancelled plans or not made theirs yet because of lockdown disruption. It might be that someone wanted to come with us even at this late stage. Villa has a pool, near nice restaurants, private but not too private etc.

If our can go on holiday with them, surely you can pick up the phone and call them?

You absolutely can ask with two weeks to go. They may well have concerns about going, but as you're offering a free holiday they need to share their thoughts with you rather than you the hosts scrambling around to find out what their plans are.

Well if they’re not keen I’m up for it. My boss is desperate for me to take some annual leave so I’d not need much notice

I don't understand your problem about simply asking them! It's all very, very straightforward really isn't it?

You: Are you still coming to the villa in July? Need to know so we can make plans. Totally understand if you've changed your mind but could you let me know by tomorrow please.

There! Sorted. HTH 👍

All this needless anxiety about something so simple 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️😊

Give them a deadline and go from there

They’re clearly anxious about telling you ‘no’ just explain to them that it’s totally fine for them to not be comfortable but you need to know now so you can make plans 👍

Do you have an update OP?