partner coming back after drinking

[anothername01]

I have a 6 month old baby and my partner has been at the pub this afternoon with his sister and brother. the brothers partner lives with me (my best friend) and he has just rung to ask if she can pick them up as they are well over the limit. has asked to be picked up from a shop as they are picking up more beers. so they are coming back here to continue drinking. I'm really not in the mood for this when I have a young teething baby. I actually really dont think its appropriate to have drunk people around my young child, especially in her home. I dont care about my partner drinking btw but why can they not go to the brothers home? why does it have to be my home where me and my baby are?

partner is claiming they are just going to have a few more whilst watching the rest of the football but they have been out since half 12 so realistically have had a fair few already.

AIBU to ask them to go to brothers house instead?? (his is much smaller and he lives with his dad but I dont care! this is my babies home not a continue on from the pub!)

Yep tell them to go to the brothers. Although they shouldn’t be going there either.

Ok, break it down for a minute.

You haven't said why you don't think it's right they should have another drink in a home with a baby in it?

Do you think they'll be too loud? Or insist on holding/passing the baby round during the football game?

If so then YANBU. Otherwise if it's 'just because' I'd say YABU if it's a one-off.

@WorraLiberty because they tend to act extremely silly when they are drunk, they get very loud and I'm not sure thats appropriate round a baby when they could easily go to the brothers instead? why should me and my child have to be around that nonsense even if it is a one off?

Why not make some nice snacks, have a glass of wine yourself and join your family x enjoy yourself

@WorraLiberty

They were in the pub at Midday, wasted by 5pm - they don't sound like responsible drinkers to me?

Fuck having an "after party" with a young baby around.

[quote anothername01]@WorraLiberty because they tend to act extremely silly when they are drunk, they get very loud and I'm not sure thats appropriate round a baby when they could easily go to the brothers instead? why should me and my child have to be around that nonsense even if it is a one off?[/quote]
Ok but (and honestly this is a genuine question) if that's how you feel, why have you not spoken to your DP?

Why are you asking Mumsnet instead of him? Surely he's going to be back soon or at least on his way home?

It's your relationship, just pick up the phone.

because he doesnt see the problem with it at all...

[quote Crunchymum]@WorraLiberty

They were in the pub at Midday, wasted by 5pm - they don't sound like responsible drinkers to me?

Fuck having an "after party" with a young baby around.[/quote]
I've read the thread back and can't see anywhere that they were wasted by 5?

All I can see is the OP saying they have been out since half 12 so realistically have had a fair few already.

Either way, she needs to speak to him not Mumsnet.

by your logic most of AIBU is redundant as majority factor on atleast one person doing/saying something, the reason people ask on this forum is because 9/10 there is resistance from the other side who dont think their behaviour is unreasonable or think you're the one in the wrong

@anothername01

by your logic most of AIBU is redundant as majority factor on atleast one person doing/saying something, the reason people ask on this forum is because 9/10 there is resistance from the other side who dont think their behaviour is unreasonable or think you're the one in the wrong

My point is, if they're going to come home and watch the football, you need to speak to him quickly. Otherwise it's going to be more awkward.

How does your friend feel about it?

friend is seeing the brother so although shares my sentiments feels awkward incase it causes a row between them. they've not materialised yet so hoping they have decided to stay out for a while longer

But then they'll be even more drunk.

Have you spoken to him yet?