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WIBU to ask person to move their car.

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Stormtroopette · 03/07/2020 20:22

Today I was delivering some shopping to a relative and I parked on the roadside in a residential area. There were quite a few cars parked today so only a couple of spaces left to park in.

When parking I kept in mind not to exceed the drop kerb and potentially block someone's drive. I was quite close to the car behind but had left enough space that they would be able to get out as they had space behind them to reverse and I would be able to pull forward to drive out.
As I was getting out of the car the owner of the drive next to where I had parked pulled up. I could see him shaking his head at me inside the car. He then parked in front of my car but reversed all the way back so his van was touching my front bumper but he had plenty of space in front of him.
When he got out I politely asked him if he could pull forward a little as he was touching my bumper and I woildnt be able to get out and didn't want to damage his van. I said I would be going in a minute as I was only dropping something off.
He went off on one, ranting about how I shouldn't have parked in 'his space' and that this was his driveway and he had a right to park there.
I told him that I wasn't exceeding the drop kerb so was parked legally and will only be a second dropping the shopping off and then will leave and could he just pull forward a little so I would be able to get out. He did pull forward but he clearly wasn't happy about it and muttered something about me being a bitch as he left.
I really hate confrontation so often mull things over in my mind afterwards. Was I BU to park where I did? It was a public road and I wasn't at all blocking his driveway so I didn't think it would be an issue.
I should add that he already had 2 cars on his drive way and seemed to frequently park his van on the roadside in the spot that I had parked in so felt it was "his space".

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rottiemum88 · 03/07/2020 20:27

You know you weren't unreasonable, don't overthink it. Some people are just idiots 🤷🏼‍♀️

MsVestibule · 03/07/2020 20:27

It doesn't sound as though you did anything wrong. You remained polite, he was a bit of a tosser. Honestly, just forget about it and get on with enjoying your weekend Smile.

MotorwayDiva · 03/07/2020 20:32

Sounds like my parents neighbour, except he parks over his dropped curb to block me in. He watches until I leave house and then comes out to move it muttering. Difference is I can get out the space. Don't over think it you have road tax you can park on a public road...

Stormtroopette · 03/07/2020 20:33

I guess I do know I wasn't. I'm just such a non confrontational person and a people pleaser that I always end up overthinking afterwards and worrying that I was wrong. My first instinct is always to not say anything as I hate confrontation but I thought if he blocks me in I'll have to go to his front door to ask him to move which would be even worse.

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iamyourequal · 03/07/2020 20:37

He sounds like a mean horrible man and I would have found that upsetting too. You have done nothing wrong at all. Don’t waste another minute thinking about it. Flowers

StudyBuddy · 03/07/2020 22:38

You were obviously not unreasonable regarding this gentleman. However, if you couldn't get out of your space by reversing then the car behind you couldn't get out with the space you left. That means if someone had parked in the space behind them then they wouldn't have been able to get out either. I know you were only there for a short amount of time but it's worth bearing in mind that just because there's space to reverse when you park doesn't mean there always will be.

Stormtroopette · 03/07/2020 22:42

@studdybuddy Just to clarify, there was already a car parked behind the car I parked in front of but that car had left a large gap between them. Not large enough to park in but more than enough for the car I parked in front of to be able to reverse back and then get out.

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TooTrueToBeGood · 03/07/2020 22:45

He doesn't own the road so it's not his space. You were not in the rong and he is just a CF and a bully.

Babesinthewud · 03/07/2020 22:46

People think they own the road in front of their house- they don’t!

Sounds like an entitled prick and you done nothing wrong

SpillTheTeaa · 03/07/2020 22:58

He had a driveway so he should use it not expect the space right out side his house. If he expects he he better apply to buy it. Douchebag

FlamedToACrisp · 03/07/2020 23:17

Diagram, please - you know the rules!

PatsyJStone · 03/07/2020 23:30

There’s always someone who thinks they can control parking on the street... he was being awkward, he’s that person. He probably gets away with it most of the time. You did nothing wrong.

ToBBQorNotToBBQ · 04/07/2020 00:13

You were lovely OP. I would have argued back.

BeautifulCrazy · 04/07/2020 00:41

You did nothing wrong, the bloke was being a total twat. Think no more about it.

Sparticuscaticus · 04/07/2020 00:46

Meh get your phone out and video him next time. Be polite, take a wife shot move around to show your car and his van and what other room their was ie his drive! . Then save it, the second time he does it, it's sufficient evidence to demonstrate harassing behaviour with intent to cause distress. Quick trip to show police and to send them videos that they might knock at his door. If he does it to you he'll be doing this to other people.

Stormtroopette · 04/07/2020 08:57

Thanks for the reassurance everyone. I wish I wasn't the sort of person to get hung up on these things! Hopefully next time there will be more space available so I can avoid his house in general!

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dontdisturbmenow · 04/07/2020 09:05

He didn't do anything wrong though. You parked ok but on the assumption you'd be able to drive off over his drive.

Ultimately, you chose to park there despite leaving yourself no space to reverse. That was your fault.

He should have been more polite but the fact you were blocked was your own fault.

Di11y · 04/07/2020 09:46

yanbu but will also be a lesson for you to give yourself enough room next to a parked car in case an idiot doesn't give it if they arrive after you.

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