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Another job rejection

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Strawberryshortcake28 · 03/07/2020 19:35

My husband was made unemployed due to coronavirus. He missed out on furlough and worked in sales selling into local businesses . Since then he's applied for lots of jobs and only had a few responses. He had an interview last week and said it went really well they just called him on a Friday night to tell him he was unsuccessful. I'm gutted he's nearly in tears we can survive on my income but it's tight. I can't take any more rejection and leaving him alone all day he's getting really depressed and feels imasculated and worthless I'm so angry at his ex employer he should have furloughed he was only working for him a few months and was on probation so no rights I don't know what to do anymore :(

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Twizbe · 03/07/2020 19:40

Job hunting is hard.

Best advise I can give is give him 24 hours. Let him feel the disappointment, get upset, get angry etc for 24 hours. Process the emotions.

Then tomorrow - it's a new day and a new opportunity. That job wasn't the right one and another one will come along.

CorianderLord · 03/07/2020 19:50

Every time I've missed out on a job, a way better one has come along not long later and I've snagged it. Same with DP.

It's a difficult time, tell him to just keep plugging along

Vodkacranberryplease · 03/07/2020 20:00

That's awful. I'm hiring at the moment and fwiw here's what I think works.

Only apply in the industry and sector you have direct experience in. If I see one more waffly cover letter telling me about their unique skills followed by a completely irrelevant CV I'll scream.

Put what you sell/have product knowledge in the first paragraph along with who you sell to and what systems you know how to use. No one can train right now.

Be prepared to travel to interviews. I have had 2 candidates want to switch to zoom interviews when the problem I am trying to solve involves people being in the office. So that's them out.

Don't be scared to send (brief) emails/letters with a cv to direct competitors - Make sure they go to the right person. If you ring and say to reception I've been selling a competitors product and wanted to send my cv to the right person they have no reason not to give you the right name.

keep it short but say I'm really interested in working with you because you do x. I've been doing y and have experience over the last x number of years with.., (bullet points).

Do not talk about personal qualities eg I'm a tenacious team player. 🙄.

And use linked In which is fantastic! Connect with customers, and friends and anyone near you in business. Put your profile as looking for opportunities. Then contact the people you want to talk to.

When the emails (not linked in ones) are sent out ring the people. It takes guts - I did it a few years ago and they nearly fell off their chairs. It worked.

Stick to what you have exact experience in. No one wants to take inexperienced people right now - chances are they need staff because someone won't work or business has exploded. If he was selling advertising for example then he would need to slot in very easily if it was anything else.

Hope that helps, there are jobs but you need to be an exact fit.

lboogy · 04/07/2020 04:57

Great advice @Vodkacranberryplease

Monty27 · 04/07/2020 05:03

OP read up on Martin Lewis he's got great furlough advice. Your DPS employers might be duty bound to claim for him. Or indeed your DP. Get advice.
Also, take heart. It will be okay. Just ride the storm. Calmer seas will be ahead. But you probably can't see that right now. Flowers

Appletoffee · 04/07/2020 05:23

I have no advice but I feel for you both. He is a lucky man to have you - you can help him feel better by being conscious of how he feels emasculated and trying to support him psychologically. Don’t underestimate how much you can do to build his confidence and use this opportunity to strengthen your relationship.

Many years ago I had a year of unemployment - I won’t forget how unkind my DH was at the time. I felt I was letting him down and I was so ashamed he had to support me. He didn’t help my falling self-esteem.

I’ve seen other couples ride out awful personal and financial circumstances together and I admire their teamwork. In the long term they are better off emotionally (and often financially).

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