To ask you to cast your vote! Disrupted evening but solid sleep or good bedtime and night waking!

[Napqueen1234]

My friend and I were having a friendly debate today and were at complete odds to which is the best/worst of our situations with our babies sleep (both are 6.5 months old!) I won’t give away which I am. This is neither a stealth boast nor intended to pit parents against each other we are writing this together and want to see who is right.

So...

YABU: child A. Goes to sleep like a dream at 6:30pm. Bath, pjs on then laid down and just closes eyes and goes to sleep. Not a peep UNTIL 10/10:30 when wakes up for a feed then another night feed around 2:30am then awake for the day at 6. Supportive DH who does either night feed or gets up early. Mum struggles to catch up on sleep because can’t go to bed earlier (only one bedroom and baby in cot in there so would wake her anyway) and always wakes even if dad does the night feed so every night is disrupted.

OR

YANBU: child B. Bedtime is 7pm (hahaha...) up and down up and down needing settling, bits of feeding, cuddles, lying down next to them etc etc. BUT when they do go to sleep normally 8/8:30 that’s it. Conked until 7am no night wakings. DH isn’t home until 8 in the week so mum does every long settling sesh although he takes over it still going on when he gets home and also helps at weekends.

Neither are bad for 6.5 months IMO so don’t shoot us but which would you prefer??

At that age B sounds a dream- broken sleep is torture for me, I struggle to day nap.

Full night sleep at this age very unusual so that’s waaaaaaay Better ! DH can’t help timed he is home due to work and if is supportive when there then fine.

Our DD is 14 months old and sleeps through 7-7 very rarely wakes it’s a godsend as you need all the energy you can get in the day time

Definitely B! There is so much to be said for a good night's sleep...

B would be preferable for me.

You are clearly B.

B is better.

I’d take B any day of the week.

B!

Toddler DS is a bit of a shit at bedtime at the moment. But once he’s out, he sleeps until 7.30am ish. It’s complete bliss compared to the night wakings of a year ago!!

Definitely B. I was done with the 2am feeds by 3 months with my two. Couldn't be doing with that still at six months!

But can I make a suggestion that perhaps baby B isn't ready for a 7pm bedtime, and waiting until nearer 8pm before you start bed time might work better.

B, every single time. Broken sleep is hell.

B, every day of the week. I, unfortunately, have a version of an A, but with some of B's settling issues thrown in and a few more night wakings. If I didn't laugh about it I'd never stop crying

A. I'd prefer to have an evening, nice undisturbed meal etc rather than being given up and down all evening! I don't think 10-6 with one night feed is that bad really, especially if you can alternate.

Interesting that B is winning and that you think I’m B!

My child is currently a mix of A and B!
Right now I would prefer A though as I really miss my evenings with DH when im constantly resettling him for hours & I could be on the sofa with a glass of wine.

The advantage of a is that the baby will probably stop wanting the night feed soon and then they will have an easy time. On the other hand, they could probably improve the settling for b as if they wanted to, so neither situation sounds excessively bad

Oh gosh, B is like my dream.

B is MUCH better. Being woken up constantly is like torture. I don't care how long bedtime lasts - if I get a solid block of sleep then that's a huge win.

OMG, B no contest

B definitely but I wouldn’t try to put the baby down at 7 if I knew we’d be messing around for so long. I would string out the early evening and bath time until say, 7.30/45 and then aim to get the baby settled quickly.

I have an almost eight month old who is A without the night feeds and a 10 week old who is A+B.

I would take either A or B over the disturbed evenings and the broken nights. Foster, they said. It will be fun, they said... (and on the whole it is but the nights are tough)

@bloodywhitecat Are you a biological miracle?

Herc a foster parent I think? So more of a gem than a miracle!

I prefer A, I don't sleep well anyway so would rather have the night wakings, its very annoying being awake when the baby is asleep! I also have coursework to do when DD goes to bed so its easier if she sleeps early and wakes later. She currently doesn't go to sleep early and still wakes up in the night so I have the best of both worlds

B by a mile

Both sound utterly blissful to be honest. DC1 was well over 2 before he slept for longer than 2 hours at a stretch and is still up a couple of times, DC2 is coming up to 18months and waking hourly at the moment. I am broken.

B all the time. DD is 2 and I can't even say what I'd be prepared to do to get a run of full nights of sleep!