Should I say something?

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Long story - sorry!
DH and I have been married 13 years. His brother got divorced around the same time DH and first wife split up (around 15 years ago). MIL still has large pictures of both son’s weddings in her lounge. It has never bothered me - she also has smaller pictures up of our wedding and all the grandchildren. But BIL is now getting married and future SIL has told me that she finds it really weird and a bit upsetting. She has asked me to support her in speaking to MIL. I’m torn - I can see why she finds it weird after all this time but it’s MILs house and she should be allowed to have whatever pictures she likes. I get on really well with new SIL and want her to feel welcome but I can’t honestly say it bothers me.
So
YABU - SIL is wrong, stay out of it
YANBU - SIL is right, it’s weird.

I think it would be fine if it was a photo with an ex in with lots of other family or something, but having a wedding photo up of her sons and ex wives seems very weird to me- I wouldn’t like it. That said, I wouldn’t be bothered enough to say anything, I’d think MIL was bit odd and insensitive, but would just shrug and let it go. So I don’t think your SIL is being u reasonable to be upset by it, but I agree you should stay out of it- I would just tell her it doesn’t really bother you that much, otherwise you’d have mentioned it years ago, and tell her to ask her DH to be to speak to his mother about it if it really bothers her.

Thanks for all the replies. They are just of the bride and groom. I spoke to my DH about it last night. He said that when we got married he suggested to his DM that they could come down and even offered to have photos taken of her beloved dogs to replace them but she said no. I’m seeing SIL for social distanced wedding planning later so I’ll speak to her about it. I think she needs to just accept it and move on.

I wonder why she won’t take them down.