AIBU to find this strange?

[SuperEkstra]

We moved into our house in South London in February. Previous owner was downsizing and moving to Surrey, so, not round the corner, but not the other end of the country.

About once a month, she will come and park up outside our house. I think she then goes and walks her dogs in our local park. The first time I was going out and just said a quick hello, and she commented on the changes we've made to the house. Nothing rude just "ooh, it looks very different".

I think she's outside now. I want to pop out but I'm waiting for her to go first. I just find it really weird, and a bit invasive! I don't want to encourage friendship with her, etc.

It is odd, isn't it?

She's not still there is she? Living in your attic or something?

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Maybe she's meeting old friends for lunch? Or in a place where she used to go with the dogs?

If they’ve been there a long time, there is probably still an emotional attachment. It must be odd to see somewhere you’ve spent a huge chunk of your life changing.

For years after my parents moved out of my childhood home, it used to really throw me when we drove past it when I was visiting. I actually felt a physical wrench when we drove on by; my body was ‘expecting’ to feel the car turn into the driveway.

I honestly don’t think she’s stalking you or dangerous in any way. Eventually she’ll let go.

I assume she has a monthly meeting with friends or something up your way, and so whilst she’s there does a familiar walk with her dogs.
And yes she’s probably a bit nosy about the house.

@nokidshere yes, I don't think she's doing anything wrong (and I know she can park where she likes!) but right outside our front door when she could park anywhere make me feel weird. Perhaps I'm being weird.

YANBU to find it odd, but I'd imagine she's kind of in the habit of parking there if she's meeting up with friends. I would also hide until she's gone

No, you're not being weird, she is. If she had an ounce of sense she wouldn't park right outside. I'd be tempted to actually say to her, "Did you not move to x in the end? I see you parked outside so frequently I thought you must have moved locally." She may then get the message.

No danger of that happening to us - the woman of the couple we bought from can't bear to see the place now she no longer lives here. She's friends with our NDNs who told us that!

She's probably meeting friends, or just revisiting somewhere she loves. I'd not give it any thought. Some people like to reminisce.

I would hide too. It is a bit weird I agree.
When we moved out of our flat we drove round a few months later to see if the area was still a dump. It was! I also drove my kids to look at the house where I grew up but only once and those properties are both within 15 minutes from me so very local.
My friend brought a house, the lady she brought from moved just down the road. She turned up on a number of occasions after moving and asked for things back including the big planters she left in the front garden! Some people are just too weird.

I don't think yabu. If she is meeting friends why does she have to park outside yours everytime? Seems a bit odd and a bit nosy.

I’d be knocking on the car window saying Hello !

But I’m a gobshite.

I hope she doesn't park there when you're not in and let's herself in with an old key!

@ItsSpittingEverybodyIn OMG

You did change the locks, right?

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That’s really weird. But yes, hope you’ve changed the locks!

I'd find that really nosey and weird

It is possible she's meeting friends once a month but it's a bit weird to park right outside your house.

A few years ago I was staying at a friends place for a few weeks near where I used to live when I was married so decided to walk my dog past our old house just to have a nosy to see how it had changed in the intervening 15 or so years since I left.

Not a thing had changed: same door, with what looked like the original paint, same gate, garden wall and so on. Looked like the house had been frozen in time and frankly it looked neglected and scruffy.

We had a lot of work done to the house when we bought it in the late 70s and they seem to have changed nothing on the outside at all. Made me wonder what they'd changed on the inside.

I bet they still had the avocado bathroom suite we put in.

Well thanks @ItsSpittingEverybodyIn

A lot of people aren't going to sleep tonight and calling locksmiths in the morning

It's a funny one - you could park pretty much anywhere on our street, but she parks very directly in front of our house.

It's not a major issue, I guess, but I do feel uncomfortable, which is why I asked I guess!

I haven't changed the locks...didn't occur to me. I'm an idiot, aren't I?!

@marshmallow91 sorry! And to you op! I'd be doing some digging myself, asking my neighbours how often they've seen her around.

It feels a bit stalkerish. Change the locks.

I've just realised I've still got my set of keys for the house I moved out of nearly five years ago. Not wanting to worry anyone or anything...

First thing I did when moving in was changing the locks, why wouldn’t you?