Don't know what to do about job offer

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I've been contracting for a few years in HR.

Have been very lucky during Covid as I lost my contracted role in April, got paid until the end of May and was offered a new contract in June on the most money I've received so far 🤯

I've now just been offered a perm PT role in the civil service, 20 minutes from home.

DH has said grab it, it's perm, it's PT and we can't both work in the City with 2 DC.

But it's at the ceiling where I can't go above it career wise, and it's junior to my experience (and less money obviously).

I've worked in this department before and there's a lot of management politics going on that I just can't be arsed getting involved in but the team are nice.

AIBU that l'm tempted to take my chances with my current contract (6 month but may go perm) and hope dh and I can make it work with us both in the city?

So he gets to have the career he wants but you don't? Bugger that ... How about herapplies for a part time junior role

Your instincts tell you to stick with the contract job.

It’ll help you “get back” etc, if there is WFH, your DH can also WFH on other days to cover child care etc

This is a role that could lead somewhere at a salary that you won’t ever get with the junior role.

Fly high, do what makes you happy because that will make you a better partner and parent ultimately

If your dh has been the "trailing spouse" before he can do it again- the fact he isn't offering means he doesn't give a f*ck about you or your career. Id be considering what you actually get out of the relationship because its clearly not support or encouragement.

@missbipolar

If your dh has been the "trailing spouse" before he can do it again- the fact he isn't offering means he doesn't give a f*ck about you or your career. Id be considering what you actually get out of the relationship because its clearly not support or encouragement.

That's quite a reach on the information provided!

Update - I took the local perm PT role.

My manager in the contract role said my contract definitely won't be able to be extended.

I'm going to take this time to do some post grad study and just see what the world looks like in 2021.

Given the current role wouldn’t be extended, you made the right choice. They know where you are if things change.

Congratulations, I think you made the right choice for now!

Thanks. I feel really underwhelmed by accepting the offer.

But I need to shake myself because I'm in such a fortunate position and I'm acting like a spoilt brat (silently sulking because I didn't want the fecking job 😩)

I just wanted to say you've not been "lucky" with the contract work, you're obviously good and can find contract work. And they are chomping at the bit to have you in the civil service because of your contract work experience. If in 6 months your contract ends, you'd have the cushion of the money having worked full time. Personally I think the demand for time will go down now if WFH is more accepted. I can see a lot of women being happy to do 40 hours if their kids can be at home in the background watching TV after school.

Sounds like the right decision financially. And good you can use the spare time to study and then get back to something more interesting in a bit.

I think you probably made the best choice for the extraordinary circumstances of the world right now, esp since you confirmed your short term position could not be extended.

That's great about post grad studies! the world is going to be a complete disaster for the the next 1-2 years, so I think you did the right thing! Hopefully wfh will have you avoiding any office drama for the time being...

Another update

I gave notice on my contract role yesterday and manager has come back today saying she has been given approval to offer me a perm role.

🤯

I don't know what to do now. I've accepted the local role, signed the paperwork and due to start in 1.5 weeks.

My manager at the local role is a friend and would be so disappointed at this point in the process.

I would keep your current job, but with an eye to a change in the near future. If your current contract is up in 6 months, start looking for other things and see what happens in the next 6 months.

I have a city job (dh is closer to home, both of us ft ish). I wouldn't give it up for something pt, closer to home, that was permanent if I didn't love it. You just make it work and both make the most of flexible working until you figure out something better.

Don't take it. There may be less contracting roles about but there will always be a need for them. Can you survive on DH's income inbetween contracts?

Just saw your other update. I'd take the contract role that's gone perm. Yes, you've signed the contract but you work in HR (as do I) and know that there's not a great deal they can do.... it happens, they'll get over it, do what's best for you.

Take the current job on a permanent basis! You wanted it, and it has come up. You owe it to yourself to take this. Dont worry about your friend in the Civil Service, they should understand that you have to do what is right for you.

You will make the childcare work and be happier when you are at home. If you need to make some changes in the future that is for both you and your DH to work out. The compromise shouldn't automatically fall to you.

A civil service job (and pension) with all the security that brings is worth a LOT during a recession. Plus lateral career advancement is very easy in the CS. I would NEVER advise putting your husband’s career first. But I think this could actually put yours first.

Keep your current job with the offer of permanency.
Tell the CS that there’s been a significant change in circumstances meaning you’re now unable to take the job with them.... you aren’t obliged to give details.
CS is not as stable as it once was, benefits and pension are nothing like what they used to be.