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Not to take in the neighbours parcel?

19 replies

BonestoBones · 03/07/2020 06:31

My neighbours don't like us because when we moved in we had some renovations done in the house which caused noise and it annoyed them. The H is ok with us the W just ignores us Confused

Anyway H told us they were going away for 3 weeks two days ago. Sure enough they left. Yesterday I got a knock on the door asking if I'd take in a parcel for them. I said sure. He then told me it was big and pointed to it. It was huge. I have no idea what it was but looked the size of one of those massive TV boxes. I told him they were away Blush and I didn't want to take it. He said it was fine and he'd take it back.

My mum thinks I shouldn't have said they were away, which I probably shouldn't, and thinks maybe I should have taken in the parcel. But it was huge. I didn't want to store it for three weeks and if something did happen to it I probably would be liable for the cost? We're about to have more renovations started so don't have the space and don't really want to break a potentially expensive item accidentally.

Was I unreasonable?

OP posts:
CazzaCat · 03/07/2020 06:34

No YANBU I wouldn’t haven’t taken it either, way too big to be in your home for more than a day and like you said it could get damaged. If your relationship isn’t great with them then you don’t need to do them a favour.

I also get annoyed at delivery drivers asking to take parcels for a neighbour at the moment with the whole coronavirus thing.

GinDaddyRedux · 03/07/2020 06:49

They shouldn't have ordered something that could arrive at a time when they're away for three weeks. It's just bad form.

chancechancechance · 03/07/2020 06:55

I pretty much never take in parcels because of the problems they cause, you can't have an expensive item for that long. If it was damaged there would be a whole heap of drama.

KingofDinobots · 03/07/2020 07:15

No yanbu, I wouldn’t have taken in a big parcel and had to store it for 3 weeks even if I liked the neighbours.

If you have their number you could text to let them know though.

Everything1sFine · 03/07/2020 07:16

Of course you weren’t.

Fatted · 03/07/2020 07:17

Not unreasonable at you. Even if you like the neighbours. You are not a warehouse.

lifestooshort123 · 03/07/2020 07:19

If you fell out before over renovations good luck with doing more! Can you get started while they're away? Anyway, YADNBU.

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BonestoBones · 03/07/2020 07:24

Yes it is well timed that they are away when we are starting the major bits of it (wall taking down ceiling down etc)!

Feel justified in not taking it now. I want to be friendly but this was too big to take in.

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Literallynoidea · 03/07/2020 07:43

YANBU

HavingAMoan · 03/07/2020 07:45

Yanbu, why would you order something big like a tv then go away for three weeks?

RedCatBlueCat · 03/07/2020 07:59

Possibly a little unreasonable telling the delivery guy they are away, but totally not unreasonable declining to keep a big box for 3 weeks.

Laaalaaaa · 03/07/2020 08:04

To be fair to them, it may have been ordered weeks ago and ordered it with every expectation it would have arrived. I’m still waiting for delivery for an item I ordered 3 weeks ago that should have arrived within 5 days. Some large items are still taking a lot longer than usual to arrive.

In saying that, I wouldn’t accept a delivery that large that’s going to sit in my house for 3 weeks.

FudgeBrownie2019 · 03/07/2020 08:06

If it was out neighbours (who are lovely) I'd do it in a heartbeat and pop the parcel in our garage out of the way. For neighbours like yours? Not a chance.

SteelyPanther · 03/07/2020 08:09

No, I don’t take parcels in for my neighbours anymore as they never came to pick them up. I always had to take them round.

theendoftheworldasweknowit · 03/07/2020 08:13

If they're away for three weeks, it might well get returned to sender in that time.

Something that large though, I would struggle to store safely. I only have one neighbour I would be prepared to do that for, and that's only because he's done me so many favours over the years is therefore my absolute favourite. In the OP's case... I might well have said no too.

Herbie0987 · 03/07/2020 08:18

We don’t take in parcels for a particular neighbour as they never answer the door when they are in, in the daytime. Also they never come and collect we had to take to them. We aren’t the only neighbours who refuse.

redcarbluecar · 03/07/2020 08:20

YANBU. It’s a pain taking in parcels at the best of times, never mind a huge one for someone who doesn’t even speak to you.

Crystal87 · 03/07/2020 10:40

Yanbu, I wouldn't want it clogging up space for that amount of time and risk anything being wrong with it and then accusing you or you accidentally breaking it. They can rearrange another delivery, not your problem.

OneMoreLight · 03/07/2020 11:02

We wouldn't take a big parcel purely because we wouldn't have the space to keep it. I'll take small ones that can sit on top of the shoe rack til the neighbours come to collect it.

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