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To think my neighbours are being very rude!

16 replies

TheGoogleMum · 02/07/2020 20:40

My next door neighbours decided to get some work done in their garden. On Monday my husband told me they had half their garden on their drive and had parked their car on our drive. They probably didn't realise he was home becuase we only have 2 car and it was with me at work. They caught me as I arrived home and asked if it was ok to park there for tomorrow. I said they should have asked first but said it was ok for tomorrow (we have 2 spaces and 1 car, so it isn't really a problem it's just the rudeness of assuming it's fine to use it as it is part of our property). They haven't spoken to us since and their car is still there ("tomorrow" was tuesday).
I don't want to fall out over it really, especially becuase I generally find the neighbours the other side more annoying. And if they'd asked we would have said yes. But aibu to be pissed off they don't seem to think they need to tell us how long they plan to use our land? That they used it in the first place without checking?

We live on a small cul de sac and because some of the other houses have too many cars for their drives there isn't much space, but they could probably park just around the corner (I suspect they don't want to because they have a Merc!).

Do I say something or just try to get over it?

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SunbathingDragon · 02/07/2020 20:43

Just get over it. There are far far more things to get bothered over. They probably don’t realise how much they are annoying you and I’m guessing you don’t usually have any complaints about them as there isn’t a backstory to this.

TheGoogleMum · 02/07/2020 20:45

Post should say we only have 1 car! This site badly need a an edit button

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66redballons · 02/07/2020 20:49

You aren’t using the space, but the rude assumption would irritate me.

Womencanlift · 02/07/2020 20:50

Does it look like the work is nearly finished? If so I would let it go as it will only be a couple more days.

If nothing is progressing you could ask them how long is it going to take and how long will they be using your drive for

OlaEliza · 02/07/2020 20:51

Get over it. It's hardly something to get worked up about.

ChinWhiskers · 02/07/2020 20:53

Be neighbourly

CluelessBaker · 02/07/2020 20:54

Just so not worth getting worked up about. Why wouldn’t you just say ok and get on with it?

TheGoogleMum · 02/07/2020 20:58

@66redballons yes it's the assumption more than anything else. We don't have much of a relationship positive or negative with them, say hi if we see them but don't get into a conversation. I might not mind as much if they were friends of ours. I think I do need to let it go but it's driving me nuts because I would never do it to someone else!

The parking situation on our road has generally been annoying me for a while which hasn't helped (their drive has space for 2 cars in a line and they have a garage but usually park 1 car on drive and one at end of drive in road reducing the already limited turning space, if I was to park at the end of my drive the same way it would totally block the end of drive car in. Our drive is 2 spaces next to each other and no garage). I think if I was in their situation I would have asked in advance or parked elsewhere the first day, asked about parking on drive before parking there, said how long it was likely to be and apologised if it needed to be longer and perhaps offered a gift as a thank you if it took all week like it has!

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YouDirtyMare · 02/07/2020 20:59

Yes, it would bother me
Why didn't your husband say something at the time though ?

TheGoogleMum · 02/07/2020 21:01

@YouDirtyMare DH doesn't mind as much (although starting to bother him now!). Also he was busy looking after our wriggly toddler most the day.

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Hairdyehell · 02/07/2020 21:06

I hope you never need a favour.

Stop being such a moaner. My neighbours would park on my drive & I would park on theirs. We aren’t best buddies but generally help each other out in times of need.

You said they wouldn’t have known you were in, so it would have been no skin off your nose and they caught you when you arrived home to double check it was ok.

Get over it

fruitbrewhaha · 02/07/2020 21:06

Goodness, you have to space, just let them use it for now. Yes, they should have asked you first but perhaps they didn't realise they would need to use their drive for the work. Perhaps they are working from home, have kids at home and are having this work done and in the middle of everything on Monday they got a request to move the car so they did it quickly. You say they must have thought you were both out.

Hopefully they will be very grateful and buy you a bottle of wine. If not you know you have been nice.

Justcallmebebes · 02/07/2020 21:06

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest and surely it's in the interest of good neighbourly relations. You never know, you may need a favour from them in the future.

ForTheLoveOfCatFood · 02/07/2020 21:10

It would bother me too, I wouldn’t mind if they’d asked

If you don’t need to use the space I’d let it go this time Smile

TheGoogleMum · 02/07/2020 21:10

They don't have kids. Just the 2 of them living there.

I would have said yes I just think it's incredibly rude to not ask first. And I explicitly said they could park there Tuesday and they've stayed all week. I wouldn't say no but why don't they check?

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iamruth · 02/07/2020 21:18

It would bug me too, if they’d asked first or parked elsewhere and given me chance to offer I wouldn’t mind. I say this as a someone who lives on a street where we have really good relationships with neighbours but I would never presume to just park on their drive

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