Afternoon, hope you are all well. Can anyone give me advice on how to access support of children with SEN?
My son is 9. He does not have a diagnosis but we have been through cahms, and mental health charities etc. He hasn't been diagnosed as he is a mixture between autism, adhd and aspergers, but doesn't fit completely in to any of the boxes. His school work well with him and he is on the sen register.
He suffers from waves of extreme anxiety. His current one's are health anxiety and fear of choking. (see my previous thread). He gets very upset and panicky about things and needs a lot of reassurance.
Anyway, I've got the ball rolling for him to see someone again to help him, but there is noone to help me. I feel like I am drowning. I worry myself sick over him, what his future is going to be like. I'm an anxious person myself and I don't want to project my anxiety on to him. I also get quite annoyed with him sometimes (inside my head) because I'm so frustrated that I can't make him see that the health fears are psychological.
I feel like I'm doing the wrong thing all the time and I need someone to help me. I don't know what strategies I should be using. I don't know weather I should ignore talk to him, be understanding or tell him it's silly. Noone helps you at all.
When we went to see someone before, the counsellor had the referral, didn't speak to me about it at all, I want allowed to go in, and I wasnt given any feedback. It didn't work for my son and I don't know what they did in those sessions. I need to be able to tell them the problems we have and I want someone to advise me, not just tell him what to do privately and then he doesn't do it