For wanting to wish we had never met

[mamascorpio]

Divorced ex husband over a year ago. Completely screwed me financially, didn't really care just wanted out and clear. We were over 5 years post separation he dragged it on and on.

I signed over my interest in the matrimonial property and he was to take me off the mortgage before I signed my share over.

Signed my share last year, still not off the mortgage. I have asked my solicitors to take it back to court been told that he was haggling with the bank over the terms of the mortgage to get a good deal but should be sorted in a weeks time.

Here is the kicker, I have just been refused a mortgage because this debt is still showing on my credit file.

Upset, annoyed, a bit devastated that even after 1 year post divorce and 6 years after leaving him, I'm still not free and his financial abuse of me continues.

"I signed over my interest in the matrimonial property and he was to take me off the mortgage before I signed my share over."

Why did you sign it over before he had removed you from the mortgage?

If you're named on the mortgage can you not remove yourself from it? Seems a bit much to trust someone who you know is financially abusive to do it for you. You should have proof of signing over the interest, so speak to the mortgage provider.

I signed on advice from my lawyers on the expectation that he had already done so

It was only in the last few months I have been made aware I was still on the mortgage account.

You have a poor solicitor; I'd be making a formal complaint .

What @2bazookas says, you can't blame your ex husband for your solicitor not double checking and doing a shitty job!

I appreciate there maybe fault with the solicitor but it doesn't change the fact that my ex husband clearly misrepresented himself telling them that this was done and is in contempt of this agreement.

I appreciate there maybe fault with the solicitor but it doesn't change the fact that my ex husband clearly misrepresented himself telling them that this was done and is in contempt of this agreement.

Yes - going back to the original question yes you can wish that you never met him. I felt like this for a long time after I left my ex. I left him, became homeless and £20k in debt with literally the clothes on my back.

But wishing this won't change the future. No regrets and move forward and focus on the core issue of getting your name off that mortgage!