Constantly discussing money. Weird?

[TikTock]

I am convinced my dsis has issues. She’s a type A control freak when it comes to a lot of things, but money is the main issue, I’ve never known anybody quite like her if I’m being honest.

She has always felt the need to talk about money in front of me, especially when it comes to how much money she spends on my nephews ie for Christmas birthdays, how much she spends on their clothes etc. She also feels the need to tell me how much she has in savings, how much her holidays cost, how much she saves each week for certain things, how much her bills are etc. AIBU to think this is not normal?

Everything with her is a competition especially when it comes to our kids. When my dc has birthdays and at Christmas she’s always asking what they’ve got and how much money they got. Not just in like a cute way either like asking a toddler what did Santa bring, oh no she wants details of everything. Even my dc have commented and said why she always asks. It’s like she has to make sure her kids have more than mine and better stuff than mine which is ridiculous. My dc have everything they need and some of what they want and I’m happy with that as I want my dc to be appreciative for what they have and to realise you can’t always get what you want as that’s not the way the world works. My nephews however are very spoiled and always expect to get something when they go out and don’t always show appreciation. Don’t get me wrong it’s up to my dsis how she does things with her own kids but she is so obsessive and it makes me anxious and awkward at times sitting their listening to her.

[mummmy2017]

If she is competitive, could you help her channel it.
Tell her your doing the 1p and double it challenge.
You put cash into a jar.
1p on 1st.
2p on 2nd.
4p on 3rd.
And see how far you can go doubling it each day....

[livingthegoodlife]

I'm like this. Not the competiveness because I don't care what other people have but the constant measuring of everything. I can't help it. It just slips out. Like the pp with a coat who tells everyone how much it cost rather than how warm it is.

I'd say we are "ok" for money. Nice car. No debt. Some holidays. But always trying to scrape around for money for kids clubs, shop at Lidl, school shoes expensive, never buy myself anything etc.

I think it's anxiety related. Never feel good enough! Maybe living beyond their means? I can never understand how people afford coffee out? I also have a photographic memory do when someone maybe asks how much something was, rather than saying "about £20" which is a nice casual answer, I will say "£19.49" which makes me sound weird.

[redwoodmazza]

@mummmy2017
That's a good one!!!!!