Teen TikTok Video Advice

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Genuine AIBU as DH is being about as supportive over this as a wet fart & doesn't see the issue bar he's not happy that the video is crass.

DD has made a TikTok video where she shows her online lesson & college teacher on her laptop. Very clear to see her male teacher & then does a very crass, explicit dancing pee take of them.

I'm horrified & think she could get into serious trouble if caught & she's popular on there, so it's more than possible that it will be seen at least by other class mates. I've asked her to take it down, but got the usual stroppy teen response. DH is upset that she's posting crass videos, but other than that doesn't see the problem so won't get involved given she's 17

Who is right ?

You are. Likely outcome is she’s gone against the school social media policy she’s recorded a teacher, this is taken seriously and would normally we suspended or expelled.

At 17 I hope she gets caught

Gosh, i'd be really disappointed that she would think it's ok to make fun of a teacher publically like that, but also worried that this might impact her place at college.

No idea on the legalities, but I imagine she could, at the least, get in serious trouble at college. Not to mention whether she should even be sharing a private lesson given by her teacher online.

I think you are absolutely right to be worried.

You're right OP and I'd insist she takes it down ASAP

My son mentioned a teachers name in a video and his school
Involved the police

Blimey you have to somehow get her to take it down! Serious consequences for posting someone else online like that without their consent!

Absolutely not on and she should have signed some policy to that effect when they started online learning. My year 4s has to. I'd be tempted to tell the school myself.

At 17 she should know better. I was surprised to read her age.

If it was someone else taking a piss out of your daughter online, what would you want to happen?

Thanks everyone, that was a big help. Video has now been taken down. I'm gobsmacked that DH didn't realise how bad it was, but he now owns up to not fully paying attention when I asked him to speak to her😏

Yes I'm horrified thats she would even do that, let alone get stroppy when I pulled her up on it, but we're dealing with a lot of what was once very out of character behaviour from her 😩

Thanks again

"At 17 she should know better. I was surprised to read her age."

You're not wrong, I'm seriously pissed off with her for it,

DD's school would be on to this straight away. Something similar happened, and although they didn't tell us what sanctions they applied to the perpetrators, they did mention that they might involve the police - and that's for U16 pupils. They also identified everyone who had followed or commented and spoke to them.

When you read about teacher unions advising against online lessons - this is why.

Shes far too old to be doing things like that!

Something similar happened when I was at school and there were definite threats of police, maybe even police involved but I remember it being suprisingly scary. And this was when SM was just arriving, teens these days should know better

Shes far too old to be doing things like that!

I know, but she did it anyway 😩 she also isn't getting what's wrong with it, yet she is really bright😐 & is only taking it down to "shut me up" 😩

We are on the pathway for ASD assessment & I've no idea if that's relevant here as I'm just not getting why she can't see why what she did was so wrong