To think there has never been a better time to get married? <lighthearted>

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this is obviously meant to be lighthearted, and aiming at those who might have decided to get engaged during the lockdown....

Looking at the restrictions on weddings, the number of people, the fact that the party etc has been discouraged I can only think that now would be the best time of all to get married. No worrying about the sheer amount of money it costs, or upsetting the people you now don’t have to invite but would otherwise have been expected to....

If I was planning to get married I would do it now

I would too! No pressures, no having to invite great aunt Edna because “she’s family” even although you’ve rarely see her.no huge bills for one days celebration, A chance just to get married with minimal numbers, no hassle, no stress would be bliss.

We had a small wedding with only 38 guests but this sounds even better,

It's perfect for the people that are getting lots of family pressure. I would totally take advantage!

We were just thinking about this the other day. Planning a civil partnership, difficult families, both hate being the centre of attention so weren't going to have a 'big day' anyway. Might be perfect time to do it!

Not really no, I have lots of friends and actually like having them around. I wouldn't want to celebrate an occasion with maximum 30 people.

Totally agree. We had 130 people. Cost a fortune and didn't even get to see everyone. I'd love to be able to say "sorry great auntie Doris, you don't make the cut"

I always wanted a tiny wedding, with no extended family. Just best friends and immediate family. Then we got engaged and the expectation was that we invite all of now DH's extended family, (right up to great aunts and uncles). I then thought, well if we are inviting all of them, we have to invite my aunts, uncles and most of my cousins then.

If I had my time again, I'd have stuck to my guns, except for the fact that DH was happier keeping the peace and in the end, it was absolutely lovely, so I'm not really complaining.

But, in brief, YANBU. For anyone who wants a good excuse for keeping things small and intimate, this is ideal.

Obviously, it would be better if everyone just accepted that some couples like to keep things small and we didn't need a pandemic to make us see that, but, you know.

I can imagine it would be except the government rules 'allowing weddings' are rubbish. You still can't give notice and most churches are only just prepared to start services and read banns so you still effectively can't get married.

Most churches will be restarting services in the next couple of weeks so you can have banns read. If that's not possible you can get a common licence instead. And I think many vicars will be delighted to take a lovely simple wedding after months of funerals.....

It is the perfect time in my eyes.
When dh and I got married we had over 250 guests because we have huge family's and a lot of friends, we wanted them all there at the time.
It was an amazing day, but I remember feeling so stressed and upset I didn't speak to so many people.

If I were to have my time again, it would just be us, dcs, parents and siblings partners and children down the registry office. So 12 people in total, then to a restaurant for afternoon tea.
That way we wouldn't need to worry about anyone else because they're all in the same boat.

Perfect for people who don’t want a big wedding, no good at all for those who do. Feel so sorry for people who have had to cancel and postpone weddings in this time