I don’t think IABU but I’m sure dh thinks I am.
We are both 47 and have lived in our house for 21 years (first house together).
I love our house and we have made many improvements over the years including an extension. We are semi detached but have no other houses on the right side of us as we are on the very edge of a small housing estate in a popular village (I’ve lived here all of my life and my parents still live in the village).
However, for me that is where the positives end. I have wanted to move for several years as I do not want to spend all of my life in the same place. And although we have no houses on the right side of our property what we do have is the main road which runs through our village, it is very busy and is becoming noisier and noisier over the years, in the summer I am woken by loud lorries (this has never bothered dh but irritates the hell out of me).
To top that off although up to recently we were lucky that for 21 years our NDN was an elderly lady who was very quiet and often stayed away with family. However since the beginning of this year we have had new NDN. They are a lovely couple but quite noisy, if the man isn’t chainsawing wood in the garden then their 3 dogs are constantly barking.
I have said all along that when the kids can drive themselves (in 5 years time) I would like to move to somewhere much quieter and less populated. However DH doesn’t want to move and gives out all kind of excuses eg we can’t afford to move, it doesn’t matter where you move they are building everywhere these days so you won’t find anywhere quiet etc etc.
I feel that he is BU, surely 26 years is long enough to live somewhere when you’ve wanted to move for years? I feel I have compromised long enough and feel that fact that because dh earns more than me he is using that as a kind of power move saying we can’t afford to move and if I want to move I should start saving for it etc. He knows I don’t earn enough to save, my money goes on the kids, my time away from work is looking after the kids needs and looking after my mum who has dementia, there aren’t enough hours in the day for me to work extra.
All I want is to live somewhere quiet and peaceful, to be able to sit in my garden and hear bird song not lorries and tractors hurling by.
Surely that’s NBU?