AIBU - am still too anxious to travel

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This whole COVID thing has really worried me and we've only just started visiting our elderly parents and living normally. But now, my DH wants to travel overseas in August on holiday and is accusing me of over-anxiety and ruining his life because I 'lack any sense of fun'. I'd love to travel and obviously love holidays, but it seems too risky to be enjoyable at the moment, especially as we have three little kids :-( Even if the risk is low, the repercussions of one of us getting ill or spreading the illness to our families is a price I'm not prepared to pay. Not sure what the solution is - but DH is furious and accusing me of being influenced by my (anxious) DPs. I've had similar trouble with sending kids to summer camp, am anxious, he's accusing me of ruining his career. Am I being unreasonable or is he being unfair?

A bit of both. Unless there are additional issues, risk is low of catching it or of it being serious. I wouldn't travel abroad this year just because I think it will be a hassle but not out of fear. My kids are both back at school and I've been seeing my parents and my non cohabiting partner for a good while. Is there a compromise?

I wish I could find a compromise! I am so much less restless than my DH - for me, travel is fun, but not essential, while he starts feeling claustrophobic after a couple of months in one place!

I see both sides really. We've decided against a holiday this year. Not because we're worried about the virus, but because there are likely to be all sorts of restrictions which mean you can't properly relax.
I think when you're overly anxious about something but the other person isn't, it can be quite frustrating for them, and vice versa.

I'm a bit worried but we are going - to a country with less risk than our own and a hotel with very stringent COVID measures otherwise I wouldn't be going.

2 things

Travel Insurance

Emergency money if you get stuck in another virus lockdown

Yes, we've found a low risk location and we'll be travelling there by ferry, rather than plane.. I so wish my DH and I were on the same page - but I'm tonnes more risk averse than he is.

Why can't you go on holiday in your home country this year ?

@BelieveBubble826 - very good point

What is he expecting a holiday to be like? I'm not going away anywhere, not because I have any anxiety about catching it but because I can't imagine it being any fun being away and having to worry about whether museums and restaurants are open or not and even if they are it all being weird and artificial with enforced distancing etc.

It just doesn't sound like any kind of relaxing or enjoyable an experience. Has he considered this?

I'm a frequent traveler
I was abroad when lockdown started
I've seen the chaos it brings to locals & foreigners & things changed very fast
Flights cancelled suddenly
Restaurants closed
Curfews
Temperature checks
Face masks

Check the www.gov website for travel advice for each country

The news has just said Greece has stopped flights

Second wave of virus

If you go beware of the risks

I'm not going abroad for the rest of this year

@BelieveBubble826

Why can't you go on holiday in your home country this year ?

Because this.

Why can't you go on holiday in your home country this year ?

Also, because prices have skyrocketed for any UK break. And because some of us have holidays coming up which were booked before all of this kicked off.

OP if you are travelling by ferry and you've found a low risk location then you are mitigating your risks. Just be sensible.

Not everyone wants a beach holiday

You're both entitled to your points of view but your h shouldn't be 'furious' or telling you you've ruined his life. Is he always so melodramatic?

You do know that not every beach in the UK looks like that? Up in Northumberland, at peak season we have beautiful huge beaches and countryside that never comes close to crowded

@HugeAckmansWife

You do know that not every beach in the UK looks like that? Up in Northumberland, at peak season we have beautiful huge beaches and countryside that never comes close to crowded

And it’s fecking freezing most of the time

can you get travel insurance?
what kind of holiday will you actually be able to have? Sit on beach, yes, activities - no.

and what's with all the 'ruining my life' drama?