This IS really irresponsible isn't it.

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DD 15 went to a friends house this afternoon. I really didn't want her to go and I shouldn't have let her but her dad said she should see her friend. Girls parents said it was ok and I told her to wash her hands a lot etc. She has texted me to say she is staying over and the parents said it was fine and her Dad (ex P) said he knew as he is picking her up from there tomorrow. I feel terrible to let her go in the first place I'm thinking of their family not just ours. I live alone and so does ex P. I socially distance at work.

I don't get it? What are you expecting to happen?

My10 year old daughter is going to a friends tomorrow, my 11year old will be in school as she's 6, and my 15 year old will be in school for 3hrs Fri morning... She's the only one that's not seen anyone, I thought it was OK to start mixing 2 household's 🙄🤔

OP calm down and have a wine / tea / something else.

I don’t think you can mix 2 households unless those households don’t mix with anyone else which is not the case. It is confusing and not very clear

You can mix from next Saturday, not now. Which is why the advance publishing of changes is fucking stupid. Post Cummings the govt have zero credibility and the public will implement changes immediately.

OK then I've calmed down now and had a drink - so we've gone a week early. Good job we're not seeing grandparents this week as I hoped to. Not seen them for 6 months, they are super cautious and don't want to even have us in their garden. I try not to take it personally - they say they are worried if the weather is bad they'd have to let us in!

It’s fine, this will be no less ‘dangerous’ after the 4th July than it is now.

But it doesn't mean that you've missed the boat on the safest time to see grandparents. I think I'd have to point out to her that she's unilaterally made a choice that impacts everyone else.

That should say 'does mean'. Gah!

Yes I take your point. I will discuss that with her. Unfortunately she has a knob for a father who has in the meantime apparently told her she doesn’t have to go and see her grandparents - if she doesn’t want to. He was never “made” to see his and that is today’s mature advice he has decided to pass on to her. It made him a much better person apparently and I am a controlling mother who is driving my DD away.

Muppet.

Sorry, that wasn't very helpful. It's so frustrating though.