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Visiting in carehomes

43 replies

Clappingforjoy · 29/06/2020 20:20

Can anybody help I want to know if carehomes can allow visits at thier discretion following social distance rules or as to whether the government has told them no

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DonaldTrumpsChopper · 29/06/2020 20:22

I visited a care home last week. Socially distanced (4m) in a garden, carer present etc.

WaterOffADucksCrack · 29/06/2020 20:24

It'll depend on their local authority plus their own policy. Imo no good care home will allow visitors yet.

spanieleyes · 29/06/2020 20:24

Both my parents are in different care homes. One has visitors. They need to book, only one at a time, visit to take place outside on the verandah, masks to be worn. The verandah can be accessed without entering the home itself. The visit to take no more than 20 mins as a member of staff needs to remain with the resident at all times. Other home, no visitors at all. They have a garden but to access it you need to walk through the home so no independent access available.
I think it depends on the risk assessment carried out by each home. I don't think there is any government ban though I may be wrong!

WaterOffADucksCrack · 29/06/2020 20:26

Sorry I didn't read the following social distance guidelines bit. Yes of course they can allow it but they should ensure well over 2m distance plus PPE.

kwest · 29/06/2020 20:33

MIL recently admitted during lockdown to care home with dementia. During last month they’ve allowed visits. Visits prebooked. Meet In courtyard at front of building, visible to office where they keep an eye on things. Tables and chairs 2 metres apart, areas marked off with instructions not to even lean into those areas. Carers bring residents out and when visit has finished they come to return residents inside. Their opinion is that the mental health of their residents is also very important. Some have gone from seeing family members every single day to suddenly not seeing anyone for months. They also use Skype but not all residents like that.

Lifeispassingby · 29/06/2020 20:35

Our DS has learning difficulties and Autism and is in a residential care home. We have not visited since end of February, and have been told we will not be able to visit for a while still. We are used to going every other week for the day to taking DS out so it is very hard not doing so but we understand the reason why and support the care home fully

Toddlerteaplease · 29/06/2020 20:38

My friend was admitted to a care home at the end of March. No visits as yet. But he's just about mastering face time. (Even if he does always put the phone to his ear) hopefully visits allowed in the garden soon.

PinkBuffalo · 29/06/2020 20:39

My mums home not allowing proper visiting. I have seen her once since mid March (I am normally there 5days a week at least)
They allowed me a socially distanced visit where I sat in the garden and she was in her room on the ground floor. It was not ideal but I got to see her for an hour and meant she had all her presents for her 60th birthday a couple of days later.
Mums place have done a great job of keeping everyone safe, but I do miss everyone

mrsmalcolmreynolds · 29/06/2020 20:41

DM's home started to have visits last Thursday. Only one visitor at a time (I.e. no-one else is visiting anyone in the home at the same time), temp checked on arrival, mask worn and visit is socially distanced in the garden.

Amber0685 · 29/06/2020 20:44

I am allowed to visit this week, one person only for one hour only & you must stay in the room. Visitors must wear masks and use hand santiser and book their visit. The reason it is not outside is probably mobility.

FuckThisWind · 29/06/2020 20:46

Just want to say that it must be so difficult for all of you with parents in care homes / children in assisted living accommodation. My uncle had a stroke in Jan and went into a temporary NHS rehabilitation unit in Feb. He has today just gone into his own assisted living flat. I'm 400 miles away and can't see him, but been talking to him every day.

Hugs to all of you who are struggling to see loved ones. I know there are threads on here about Dementors being those who are abiding to strict lockdown rules and don't give a stuff about people who are shielding extremely vulnerable relatives.

MorganKitten · 29/06/2020 20:54

Varies on the care home, my mother and nan I can’t visit

Samcro · 29/06/2020 20:57

I have visited dd, set up outside and with 2 m tabele in between.
But some friends with adult children in other areas and homes have not been able to.

PinkiOcelot · 29/06/2020 21:07

I’ve visited my mam twice now. We’re allowed once per week for half an hour. We need to book in. The visits are outside and socially distanced. We wore masks the first week and it was awful as she didn’t have a clue who we were. That was upsetting. Visit without masks went much better.

Clappingforjoy · 29/06/2020 21:59

Right okay well we need a mental capacity assessment to proceed with selling her house and we have been told that nobody can go in and it's not them stopping us but a government ruling

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Clappingforjoy · 29/06/2020 22:01

What I am trying to establish is if they can allow a professional in or are do they need government permission

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Clappingforjoy · 29/06/2020 22:02

My mom could potentially lose alot of money if the sale is delayed further

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Clappingforjoy · 29/06/2020 22:03

We need the assessment for purpose of court of protection.

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bigbluebus · 29/06/2020 22:06

Which country are you in. In my English county at least some of the homes are allowing visitors. The chief exec of a number of care homes was on local radio the other day talking about the precautions they've put in place for visitors.

CherryPavlova · 29/06/2020 22:08

New guidance is about to be issued to care homes about visiting in next few days.

MCA assessments can and should still be done. Professional staff are allowed in. Speak to them and if they still refuse, go to local authority who is commissioning them.

Lifeisgenerallyfun · 29/06/2020 22:11

Yes the care home my dad is in is allowing 20 min socially distanced visits for relatives one at a time.

HappyHammy · 29/06/2020 22:12

can one of the qualified staff carry out a capacity assessment or ask the gp to do this. who has told you it can't be done.

Clappingforjoy · 29/06/2020 22:12

Thanks guys I am really grateful

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Clappingforjoy · 29/06/2020 22:13

Not just anybody can carry out this assessment apparently

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Clappingforjoy · 29/06/2020 22:14

I'm in uk

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