Drilling had night shifts

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I will start this by saying I know I am unreasonable, and I am not even even slightly grumpy or fed up with my neighbours. I am however on nights and very tired. (So please excuse if this makes no sense).
My neighbours are a lovely couple who have just bought their first house together. They are not having any major renovation work done but have been drilling for a couple fo hours, now I'm not back tonight so I won't say or do anything at all I just wanted opinions on if it happens when I am back again the next night if people would object to being asked if they would mind leaving it a couple of hours so I can get sleep. I will point out that I know they don't have to and they are perfectly entitled to be drilling at 2pm.
How would you feel about that if 8 was your neighbour?
So I guess yabu = mind you're own business they can drill whenever they please.

Yanbu = I would hold my drilling for a couple of hours and wouldn't mind you asking.

I wouldn't mind if you asked me this. I'm an ex nights worker so I know how awful it is.

Same as @JacobReesMogadishu in my youth I worked nights & would be very accommodating. I'd ask what times/days & do my best to keep drilling/bash to a minimum.

Of course I wouldn’t mind. But I’ve also worked nights so know how important and difficult sleep is.

I wouldn't mind being asked and would be accommodating but would need an agreement of when is reasonable. So if for e.g you sleep from 6am til 2pm then noisy work could start at 2pm and I would be fine with that.

I'd not say anything yet, they might be finished with the noisy works today/tomorrow and as you're not in tonight it won't be an issue. Personally I'd get earplugs first but if they don't work then definitely have a word if their noisy works are still ongoing the next time you're on nights.

My partner does nights sometimes and he really struggles to sleep during the day as there's obviously more noise than overnight.

I wouldn't mind being asked, but you might have to accept them saying that they haven't got another time that they can do it either.

On the other hand, if they've been drilling for a couple of hours they can't be planning to drill for much longer?

If it was us I would want to be accommodating but would also need to get work done. So if you turned up and said that you wanted to sleep now, and I had half put together furniture or was half way through something, it would be a real pain. But if you asked today for 3/4 hours quiet time tomorrow, then I could plan my day accordingly and would be happy to do so

This is why it is good to get to know your NDNs slightly. Don’t have to be best buddies but knowing someone works nights is helpful. I would want to know so I could be accommodating if needed. What goes round comes round and I might need them to be flexible too at times.

I think it's reasonable to politely explain and request.

I’d be happy with this.

@Thaddit

This is why it is good to get to know your NDNs slightly. Don’t have to be best buddies but knowing someone works nights is helpful. I would want to know so I could be accommodating if needed. What goes round comes round and I might need them to be flexible too at times.

This ^

Is it quite probable that if they’ve just moved in, they’re not aware you work nights? I’d feel awful if I found out later that work had inconvenienced you/your sleep. Definitely worth speaking up in future, if it’s still an issue.

I'd be happy to accommodate you if you came around and asked in a pleasant manner. Hammering back against the wall and then pounding the door looking like you may explode at 11am in the morning (yes old NDN I am describing you) maybe not. I also think that there is more of an appreciation of shift workers especially front line now.

I work days but like many people currently from home. About half way through lockdown one of the houses nearby started an extension. I had no problem with the builders and could manage my calls/concentration through the sawing and other clunks etc. But my god scaffolders belong to another species entirely. I get that scaffolding is noisy but yelling above the noise about general shit is really not necessary, nor is having a radio on that can be heard by everyone on the street at barely 8am on a weekend.

If I had a neighbour working nights, I'd much rather know when they're trying to sleep so that I can try to work round that, where possible. Obviously sometimes it just won't be possible, if they have someone in to do work, but if they know you're usually asleep until 4pm, they can probably avoid starting on something at 2pm.

I agree with everyone else. If it was a polite request, I would be happy to work around you. I think most people would be reasonable about this.