So DH should have been off Sat-Mon however he took a night shift shift Sun night in to this morning, 12 hours, which meant that he came in this morning in a horrible mood due to the messed up sleep pattern.
I had enough and twice I've had a row with him. He came home, walked in to the bedroom where DS3 and I were lying in bed chatting, turned on all the lights and started arguing (because he was tired) when I asked him to turn them off. We weren't long up and the light was irritating both our eyes.
He then promptly told us to get out and that was that. I said I'd like to shower etc and he threw a strop because I should have done that before he came home. He was only going to sleep for 3/4 hours in order not to waste today, but that's gone out the window and he's had a go because our toddler is bored and was being too noisy (he has ear plugs which he has refused to wear).
I understand he is tired however I am too but it's not the same. We have stopped cosleeping with DS3 and put him in his own bed. I am up multiple times a night to settle him as DS screams if anyone else comes in. This means that over the space of three weeks I've had about 3/4 hours sleep a night. DH has tried to let me have an hour or so in the morning but DS3 comes up and wakes me up, so it's pointless.
Yesterday he has 7 hours sleep plus a further 2.5 hours before night shift. He's now slept for 4 hours. That's 13.5 hours sleep from 12am Sunday until now. In that same time I've had around 9 hours sleep.
He seems to think his behaviour now okay and his demands are fine because he's tired and he's working. My being tired doesn't matter as I'm just in the house and I shouldn't nag.
So AIBU for being annoyed and snapping at him?
Yabu - he was working and is tired, leave him be.
Yanbu - he is tired but I am too and his attitude was not okay.