Is 8.45 too late to call?

[Bananaandcustard80]

It was my son's 6th birthday today and my MIL didn't send a card. She said she'd sent it the day before but second class. Not wanting to sound ungrateful she has form for not bothering but it still hurts and upsets my husband. When my husband spoke to her yesterday she said she'd call to wish our son happy birthday.

Our child went to bed at 8 and she called at 8.45 and didn't ask about son. My husband said he'd talk to her tomorrow as was just getting our eldest to bed. I know we change how she is but there's years of history of this uninterested behaviour

Is your question really about the time of the phone call? It seems like there are more important issues here. But tbh it's probably not worth the effort to change her or the stress of worrying about it, I'd accept that she's not that interested and leave her to it.

Sorry yes my Aibu is should she have called earlier? I know she won't change it just hurts that she so disinterested and she's their only surviving grandparent

Painful for your husband and for you but you can only work on changing your expectations of her. Keep them incredibly low and you’ll be less disappointed in future.

My dc have no gps as we are nc with our dps..
Not doing them any harm imo.
Better than knowing they aren't valued.
You can't force a relationship op. Put your efforts into your life and leave mil to dh..

Thank you everyone that has replied. I really appreciate it and you're right. I can't force a relationship and i/we need to change our expectations.