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New neighbours extension plans

629 replies

Greenfingeredsue · 28/06/2020 09:03

Hi all

My current neighbour has died. Now probate is completed her house is being sold.

Her son has prospective buyers. He has mentioned in passing to me that they want to extend the property out the back. I am wondering wtf they can’t just buy a house that meets their needs?

The gardens are quite big so there’s plenty of room for them to do this. However, we don’t want them to.

We need a new shed, so my husband has suggested we build a new one with a greenhouse on their side right as near to the boundary as we can, next to the house.

We’ll do this once contracts have been exchanged so we don’’t scupper the sale, plus they would have to get planning permission.

My only concern is that the new neighbours could force us to dismantle them so the builders can work?

OP posts:
crispysausagerolls · 28/06/2020 09:53

Wowwwww this is like a time warp - is it 2019 and are you my neighbour?!?

Sounds petty and jealous to want to refuse Someone else an extension.

Unhomme · 28/06/2020 09:54

Hey OP, I hope you get neighbours that are as selfish, rude, unneighbourly and obnoxious as you are.

I hope they have children with a noisy trampoline, and I hope they get a hot tub that runs constantly.

I hope they get a piano and play it from morning to night, except when they drill, obviously.

I hope you see how awful you are.

Chloemol · 28/06/2020 09:54

So glad you are not my neighbour. Why not just wait and see what the plans are, if any. Then engage with neighbours if they do go ahead to agree times etc for building, say 9 to 5 or something big they have access to their garden via the side gate you may not be able to stop them from taking stuff that way, but as others have said there will be ways round it

Noise and distrust ion won’t take long if they crack on depending on the size of the extension

One day you might want to do something that causes such inconvenience to others for a while

Why not try and be a nice neighbour for once and not start a relationship be being nasty?

mumwon · 28/06/2020 09:54

so if your eot does that mean that new n has access across your land (ie a gate in your fence for taking bin out?)
if neighbour want to build up to boundary they have to submit party wall papers to you before they build - you cant object on light unless it affect light to living space & even that has no hard & fast rules
If they do get permission the foundations could spread under boundary - which might affect drainage pipe drains if next to boundary & that is acceptable claim for them to move it back the 3 feet.
as for your green house - did you decide this before they told you or after as a way of halting this? Bluntly that wouldn't work its temporary

Marpan · 28/06/2020 09:54

People don’t buy bigger houses as a) they aren’t available b) you have to pay more stamp duty

As long as they don’t have windows over looking you, which the architect would be designing anyway - planning will go through whether you reject it or not.

Best not to start being annoying to your new neighbours before they moved in unless you are planning to move to the country to live a life of exile. It’s mean.

snowybean · 28/06/2020 09:55

Lololol OP, good troll post

Morgan12 · 28/06/2020 09:55

Jesus christ. I bet you ask kids to move if they are playing outside your house. You do don't you? Ya miserable auld bat.

Zeusthemoose · 28/06/2020 09:56

You sound really petty. All this fuss because of the possibility of some temporary noise. Just daft!

LellyMcKelly · 28/06/2020 09:56

Wow, you sound mean. You don’t even know what their plans are but you’re already planning on passive aggressive moves to try and thwart them. Apart from the actual building of the extension how will this inconvenience you in any way, shape or form?

Piglet89 · 28/06/2020 09:57

@userxx you sound lovely - I wish we had bought next door to you! You’d have been more than welcome round our house for a nosey at our extension and a tea/coffee/cake/something stronger.

SavoyCabbage · 28/06/2020 09:58

I can’t imagine using a shed of a greenhouse in the years to come and every time I did so remembering I’d put it there in order to piss someone who I didn’t even know off. That’s no way to live.

I’ve had neighbour problems in the past. Actual problems, not the noise from building an extension problems. Mine spat on my baby and built a fire on the doorstep to try and burn our house down. So now, having a good relationship with my neighbours is important to us. You might try and make it hard for them to build a perfectly reasonable extension and they might retaliate and then where would you be?

Tinyhumansurvivalist · 28/06/2020 09:58

Assuming they are only doing a single story extension and it going more than 3m (I think that's the limit for a terrace) then there is fuck all you can do as it won't require planning permission as it would fall under permitted development!

Most terraces have right of access for the neighbours so you will need to check your title deeds as you cannot build on the boundary and prevent access for them and you cannot block them using it to access their property to bring through materials or equipment to their property.

You sound like a bloody nightmare. I wouldn't want to be your neighbour

thepointoforder · 28/06/2020 09:58

You both sound ridiculous. It's a probate sale, so I'll bet that all prospective buyers will be intending to do extensive work on the property. It's almost a given in this type of house sale.

Surely you'd welcome a neighbouring property which is well maintained and modernised, rather than the opposite?

Soubriquet · 28/06/2020 09:59

Nightmare neighbour alert!

Spoiler

It’s you

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 28/06/2020 09:59

So you wouldn't look at it in anther way ....that you are making it easier for The Builders do go about their work by using the side gate rather than dragging everything through the house ?

Because if you are considerate and helpful, it will take them less time .
And you might need builders yourself in the future . At least you'd know if they were tidy , punctual and considerate , and keep their details ?

Chloemol · 28/06/2020 10:00

Just thought of something else, they can build a single story 4m out extension with only building regs, no need to get planning permission, or take into account neighbours. Part of me hopes they do that cos there will be diddly squat you could do, and if you pissed me of, as you obviously intend to do with your new neighbours I would be telling the builders to make as much noise as they want

meow1989 · 28/06/2020 10:00

Is there a massive drop feed pending? Why someone buys a house over another is nothing to do with you. If you didnt want neighbours extending then "wtf" didnt you buy a detached house? You're being very unreasonable.

imsooverthisdrama · 28/06/2020 10:01

I'm sorry but what I find odd is they mentioned extending it may never happen .
Even if it does it may be next year or 5 years away .
And the fact you are thinking of ways to scupper their plans .
Honestly one day you may need building work done .
Do you want to be that person who complains about everything?
It can be annoying but if you get along you can speak to them .
The noise is during the day anyway , a house 2 doors down from me has been worked on for months . As I've been furloughed it's been noisy at times when I'm sat in the garden but it needs to be done , they finish by 5pm and don't work weekends I think it's fair enough.

Swingswingswingfromthetabletop · 28/06/2020 10:01

We're havin a single storey extension built and there's really not that much noise, not enough for me to worry about the neighbours and I'm the type of person who worries what everyone else thinks!

I hope they want to extend because they have millions of young kids who play millions of loud instruments. And dogs.

AlexisCarringtonColbyDexter · 28/06/2020 10:02

YABVU. They have the right to extend their property, just as you have the right to extend yours. If having neighbours be 100% silent all the time is so important to you then why dont YOU move? why dont YOU move to a place with no neighbours around for miles. Then you can enjoy your silence in peace. You are very quick to suggest the buyers should move elsewhere but why dont you move elsewhere then? seeing as you'll happily suggest others do it, you could also move...

TrickyKid · 28/06/2020 10:02

What a selfish attitude. They probably can't afford to buy a house which is bigger. It's cheaper to extended.
You can build what you want up to the boundary but that won't stop them extending. You'll just end up with a greenhouse in the shade potentially.

PeterPomegranate · 28/06/2020 10:03

“ YABU and sound like a neighbour from hell. Not everyone can buy a house that fits every need. The ink isn’t even dry and you are already plotting ways to be obstructive.“

This.

IndieRo · 28/06/2020 10:03

Would not like to be your neighbour. You don't sound like a nice, decent human being.

Greenfingeredsue · 28/06/2020 10:03

I have checked my title deeds and we don’t have to allow access to neighbours.

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Backbackandforth · 28/06/2020 10:03

Instead of buying greenhouses why don’t you save up your money and buy a detached house, no neighbours. Or would you and your husband run out of things to talk about Grin

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